Sandy writes:

Subject: Fighting

Wow, I just read this article and felt this article described the exact situation that my husband and I were in just 6 months ago, I wish that I could have been seeking advice back then because now it is too late. My husband couldn't take the constant fighting over the same issues and felt the same way as the wife was described in the article as feeling that this was not how she wanted her children to grow up and witness the fighting between the parents. My husband believes we are better off separated then being together raising our two small children. I don't agree, I believe we could have made the marriage worked. He gave up, I wish I could have seen it coming. Do I still hope for a future with my soon to be ex-husband or give up on him?

Leslie writes:

Subject: fighting response

There is always hope, in my opinion. Right now, you just want to let him see that you can interact with out all of the conflict and fighting. Show him that you CAN and WILL change and that this will be lasting. You will need to see him to coparent your children. This is your chance to show him your patience and your ability to interact and parent with him without fighting. If it were me, I would put the marriage and romance thing on the back burner for a while. Otherwise, he will question if you are sincere with the change in interacting. As the two of you interact in a new, more positive way and this becomes the norm, then you can inch back toward the marriage, if that makes sense. Hope that helps! Good luck!