Pastor Tammy Jones,W.O.R.S.H.I.P.Ministries Inc. writes:

Subject: Pastor& Founder

Hello Frances I read your article on the forgotten women in our soceity. Your article was helpful ,encouraging to those who dont know what to do with this gift of time in which God has given them.Well let me introduce myself I was A prison wife. A woman of faith and character,but became a prison's wife not by choice.We may have to face some insurmountable problems but we are not forgotten at all.We are alive and well.Having a husbands in prison may be a stigma in our soceity but forgotten never!Formost we are not forgotten at all God knows our name and He alone knows where each and every one us are.However it is possible to deal with and cope with being "A Lady in Waiting" thats whati called the ladies I ministered to through our organization called W.O.R.S.H.I.P. Inc.Women of Royalty Supporting Husbands in Prsion.While your spouse is incarcerated is a time of self preservation and self evaluation.A time to keep being a productive part of soceity. For more information about write to us @ 320 Flamingo Road #108 Pembroke Pines Fl33027 We are a grassroot effort serving the spouses of inmates and their families. Thank You, Pastor Tammy

Stephanie writes:

Subject: heplful

Thanks so much for the helpful advice. Most people can't even imagine the pain you feel when your has husband or significant other as been taken away by the prison system. The thing that truly brothers me is how some crimes just get a slap on the wrist and others require a minimum of six years(depending on the state) for non-violent crimes. Your article has really helped me thanks so much for the tips....Stephanie

jennifer bond writes:

Subject: prison wife

My husband has been in prison since feb.9.there are no words to describe my fear and loneliness as i make my way through this suddenly large and unforgiving world.(or so it seems at the moment).my husband is not in for a violent crime,just a stupid and selfish one.i stand with him and beside him because thats love and commitment.We have been married 17yrs and I feel half of me is missing.He will be serving 18mo.I hope to make myself whole and strong for him when he comes home. thank you for your insights and honesty.fear and confusion are my constant companions now as friends and family haven't caught up to the our understanding of the process yet.they can be very hurtful while trying to be helpful.for example comments such as "it could be worse","you'll be okay"etc.some people just drift out of your life not wanting to be around your pain which makes the isolation all the more apparent.hopefully i will get stronger and grow.right now it doesn't feel possible.Ironic as it seems my husband has been a constant form of strength and belief in me!

A.E. Vega writes:

Subject: Prison Wives

Hi:

I recently started a blog dedicated to prison wives and would consider it an honor if I could get some feedback from you on several of the topics that I plan to cover on it. Could you please email me at eariver2@hotmail.com?

Thanks!

empty hearted writes:

Subject: im alone in this

My husband went to prison for a non-violent crime and the way he was treated you'd think that he had kill someone. He is a good person just made stupid choices. I know he is in prison but I feel I got punished as well and I'm in prison to but mine don't have physical bars or doors.

Ana Maria writes:

Subject: Prison Sweetheart

I would like to congratulate all the prison wives for standing by their man. I met my sweetheart in the prison system. It is a long and interesting story, so much so that I am writing a book about the whole situation. He is still in prison and I am standing by him all the way. His trial is suppose to start in January of next year (he was charged along with my brother for a non violent crime). One my comment is posted I will write more.

Ana Maria writes:

Subject: Prison Sweetheart

Thank you for accepting my comment. Now that I am on board I know you will find my story very interesting. I met my sweetheart two and a half years ago when my brother got into some trouble with the law. Now when I heard about my brother's situation I had no intentions of getting my-self involved whatsoever. Anyhow my brother started sending messages for me to visit him. Eventually I decided to do so. On the day I visited him is when I met Antonio. That day changed my whole life. I looked at Antonio and I was introduced to him by three of my sisters who had met him previously. There was something different about this man. Yes he was behind bars, and he is called a prisoner because he is behind bars. But to me I saw something more that just a man behind bars. Subconsciously, then and there I set out to discover what was so different about this man. It has been 2.5 years and I have discovered so many things about him and myself that I am amazed. To others he may be a prisoner (awaiting trial), but to me he is my hero. There is no man that I have ever met that I would rather spend the rest of my life with than Antonio. It gives me great pleasure to wait for him because he is a man of great character. We communicate everyday and I see twice a week every week. This helps a lot to keep us sane while we wait for his trial to begin in January next year. To all those in waiting, let's continue to be strong for our men as they fight the battle for their freedom and ours.

ReinaTrinidad writes:

Subject: Support

I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He was given a seventeen year sentence. The judge could of given him half of that so it is on appeal. This is my first time dating a inmate. I actually worked for the judicial system for sixteen years and now I am in the behaviroral Health field. I have been married twice but widowed the first time. I am forty six and I love my relationship with my fiancee, I don't think I am ready for a physical relationship out here. You get burned out from the past and dont have the energy to put into someone out here so it is easier to date a inmate, I know his family before i even met him. I love him and we have a wonderful intimate relationship based on trust and respect. I know it's not easy for me at times, because I get negative thoughts, my age, what if's..... is there anyone out there who feels the way I do? I just need support from other women, I have a great job, grown children, a grandaughter, a grandson on the way, so I keep busy. I at times would like to have my honey home to be with, but i also love my space and freedom to do as i wish... anyhow if there's anyone who wants to be a friend or has a fiancee in prison, you can email me and we can support one another. Me and my fiancee are born again Christians, so God really keeps us together, not ourselves. Who can stay faithful these days anyways....

melissa h writes:

Subject: new prison wife

I am a mother of four children and a wife of 12 years to my inmate. He just went away 3 weeks ago and everyone thinks I should be over it already. Should I ?

Ana Maria writes:

Subject: Trial coming up, please pray for us.

Hi, well I would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year, may God continue to strengthen us all to be there for our loved ones as they all need us to get by this chapter in their lives. My sweetheart's trial starts tomorrow (once everything goes well) I humbly ask that you all say a prayer for us please, I will let you know how it turns out. Stay strong and talk to you guys soon agin

Colleen G writes:

Subject: Lonely prison wife

My husband has been in prison since november 9th and I have been married 3 years. I was talking to him on the phone every day and visiting him once a week an hour and a half drive! Now hes been put in Segregation for 3weeks and I have been totally cut off from him. I have never gone without at least talking to him. I can't stand the silence I miss him so much. How does love survive being cut off completely from the person you love. The days and nights are endless to me now and I cry every night. How do I cope?

Colleen G writes:

Subject: Lonely prison wife

I was really hoping that I could chat with other women going through the same pain and sadness that I am going through. I live in Hamden CT. and I want to know if there are any support groups out there for women like us. We really need someone to talk to who can understand what we are going through. Can you help me this is very difficult for me.

A.E. Vega writes:

Subject: Response to lonely prison wife

Hi, Colleen:

I wish that I had come on to this site before today to respond to your comment. I am the wife of an inmate who has been serving time since 1988. He is my childhood sweetheart. We reunited in 2000 and got married in 2005. When I first started down this road, I did research on support groups and things of that nature. I found tremendous support through Prison Talk Online. I met some women who like me, have love ones in the prison system and have remained close friends with them through the years. Prison Talk Online has a array of topics that you can access and you can also post your own. They are also organized by state so that you can find support in your particular area. Please visit their web site and join. It is a free service and well worth it. Also please feel free to contact me if you need someone to be there for you. This is a difficult path, but it is possible to walk it sucessfully with the right support and the right mental attitude.

anna maria writes:

Subject: Xprison sweet

Dear All, My heart goes out to Colleen as I could only imagine what she's going through. Stay strong sister. Just try to think about the good times ahead, because they are!!!! And trust in Almighty God. I don't mean to rub it in anyone's faces, but I asked you to help me pray for my sweetheart when the trial was about to start and I have to tell you that he has been acquitted! Yes he is now a free man and I thank God first and you all for your prays and support. Believe me sisters out there if God can do it for us he can do it for you all. There is a book called "The Secret" for those of you who've heard about it I am glad, for those of you who has not, please try to get a copy of it or the DVD. It is very inspirational and it works. We have to be positive in our thoughts no matter what. Just read the book and think as if your man is home with you, I don't care what the circumstances are, this is possible, just have faith and don't give up. I will stay in touch and try to always encourage you girls because you strengthened me and you were there for me when I needed you most. God bless you all and stay strong.

Colleen G writes:

Subject: Lonely prison wife

I'm so glad that u are thinking of me it meant more than u will ever know! I miss myy husband so much and I just need some friends who understand and can feel my pain. Please call me I need someone who can help me through this. You can call me at 203-589-2210 Pleasse help me my heart is breaking!

Shelly J writes:

Subject: Lonley

I never felt real loneliness until the day they took my husband away. He has been gone since January of 2008 I actually felt like i was grieving him for the first couple weeks. Its gotten a little easier over time but the pain is still sometimes unbearable. We were only married for 5 and a half months when he left He will hopefully be home in a year are so. So to all you ladies out there I understand what you guys are going threw and we must remember that this to soon shall pass. This is not forever.

Colleen G writes:

Subject: Lonely prison wife

Now my husband has been moved to another prison I don't know why and they said he got some tickets and now e is in a level 4 prison. He is not allowed phone calls but I am finally going to see him on Easter! I have not seen him in over 3 months and I can't wait. He doesn't even know I'm coming! I had to call the prison to find out he was moved! I called there every day and they were very rude to me. As his wife and have not committed any crime to get information from these people is like pulling teeth! I don't like being treated that way. Why is this allowed ? I had to have my attorney call the prison to find out where he was moved to which is really crazy. I feel like I have no rights at all the prison system needs to change the way they treat a wife I'm not in prison!

Ines writes:

Subject: Depression and loneliness

I was looking for a support group for prison wives so I googled some words and found this site. I am married to my prisoner husband for 2.5 years. I just came from a trailer visit with him and can't seem to put myself back together. I look like a zombie, can't sleep, eat and can't stop crying. People seem to think that I will get "used to this" and take it much better but with each visit, I miss my husband more and more. I miss his scent, his hot breath and holding his beautiful face in my hands. I miss him so much.

Colleen G writes:

Subject: Lonely prison wife

I finally saw my husband on Easter there was a window of glass between us. We had to talk on a phone. He said he knew i was coming and even shaved! We can't have a contact visit until June. We have 6 more months to go until this is over but it feels like forever the nights are the worst for me I have to cry myself to sleep. I left my number and was really dissapoinnted that no one called! Only someone going through this pain could understand all this please feel free to call any night I need friends who feell my pain and saddness maybe we could help each other through this thanks!

Colleen G writes:

Subject: Lonely prison wife

People keep telling me to email them so I am going to leave my email address. The worst thing for me is to pretend I am okay when really I am not! My husband has been in prison for 6 months now and I still cry every night and I don't sleep very well. I am seeing a therapist and she says she can't imagine my sadness and pain. The holidays were the worst for me and I'm so glad they are over for awhile. My email is SalG11@comcast.net hope to hear from someone soon!

stormi bulson writes:

Subject: lonliness

Well, i have to say tis, this is probably the hardest thing i have ever had to do, but i know that my man is proud to have me staying by his side. i love him more than anything, and i am working on all the paper work for us to get married. this is a very lonely time, but we have to be strong for them. Just remember to hold your heads up high. And keep shining! Our guys need us to be strong for them right now!