James Badd writes:

Subject: You need to ask the right question.

Don't ask "Would an Open Relationship Help?" That question alone tells me your lack of being a man. My wife cheated on me 2 years ago. I was told about the affair a few days before Christmas. Yes, I am the Nice Guy and a Chump. I've learned how to say "NO". Especially when she TEST you. You have to gain Social Value and Social Proof. I bet the man she cheated on you with, has Social Value and has a status of a man (faked or real).

BTW, I have been through Christian books and Secular materials and at the end a combination of both has got me close to an answer. A very good book to start to read is "The Ways of a Superior Man" by David Deida. She might cheat on you again. Let's face it you don't have any control of that, but you can control yourself and make yourself better.

Elle Peterson writes:

Subject: Mr. Badd

Mr. Badd,

I truly enjoyed your response. Perhaps, I should pick up Deida's book. I do personally own "It's a Guy Thing."

Perhaps reading Deida can infuse a very powerful and transformative perspective for our gentleman in question.