Amy writes:

Subject: honest or fake!?

How can you make sure that a guy is not being Fake to you, by being very kind, only to get you?

Using your example, when a guy calls you fat, and you are actually fat. You wouldn't want him to be 'fake' by saying oh no babe, you're perfectly fine. [ ok maybe this is a harsh example]

How about, if a guy doesn't like what you are wearing , but only to be nice he says that it looks perfect!! even thou, he actually thinks its aweful , isn't that being fake?! isn't it preferable for him to be honest and tell you that it's aweful?

So my question is .. can we say honesty is only when a guy makes u be aware of your weaknesses?

kath writes:

Subject: Re: Honest or fake

Unless you are trained to tell if a person is lying or not, sometimes it is hard to tell if a person is being honest or just plain sly...

If you are fat and he says you aren't, maybe to him, you really do look good (think Bridget Jones!)

You can say honesty is only when a guy makes you aware of your weaknesses, but then again, who is perfect? who doesn't have weaknesses? Guys may be silent and avoid to be blunt-- but if you really want to know his mind, and he is honest, be prepared for his words-- and yet if his heart is true to you, then yaaa. if not... well, good luck. Does he look away? Does he have a different tone of voice? I believe, as long as you have the confidence, it doesn't matter what he thinks when you've hooked him.

However if he is a Daniel CLeaver (liar, dishonest, just to get you), try to trust yourself in analyzing this guy... i hope this helps a little amy! :)

Pauline writes:

Subject: Umm....

Does it really count if he seemingly tend to ignore you and just stays close to you whenever you're near... and just doesn't talk to you but seemingly to want to and is just pretty quiet in class but can be a little talkative around his friends... He stares at you, and sometimes does a little head-turn whenever you spot him... or just just stares back. Does that mean he likes you... or it is just one of those mean pranks that guys pull just for the heck of it?

P.S: If you do reply... please send it to my e-mail address. Thanks so much whether or not!

Kathleen writes:

Subject: Maybe yes

sorry, I can't see your email address so I can only reply here. Unless next time you ask, go to nummyz.com I have a chatboard right there to answer questions.

From what I read, I have a feeling you have a feeling he likes you. Usually, our intuition is correct, unless of course this guy is a total fake jerk. Do you ever notice him blushing? Physiological signs are hard to fake. I have a feeling he does have a crush on you. Also, if the head turn seems natural, I think he does like you and was staring because he likes you and doesn't want you to know. these guys are unsure of themselves sometimes, so if you like him, be bold, make the first step and approach him. But don't say like u like me... Just talk, have fun, smile!

call me jen writes:

Subject: Was about

Well I might be a lil bit stupied, but was about if a guy does look at you for like a min. then u just happen to look at him the same time and he hurries to look at something else? I know that it was in there but chouldn't it be that he was just like staring at like noghting but when u look at him and he just got nerveous?

kat writes:

Subject: hmmm

Next time if u want a faster answer/advice, visit nummyz.com and post a question there. here I only check once in a while.

I think if he really was looking at you, it's a strong sign he likes you-- guys are visual creatures, they can't help but look at what they look, be it a pair of hot new sneakers, their favorite sports player's jersey or butt, or the girl of their dreams-- unfortunately, even though it has happened to me before, twice-- both guys have never done anything about it-- when they look away, they are afraid of something, maybe even ashamed to admit their feelings. but whatever lol! good luck!!

Sabrina writes:

Subject: fsdfsdfdsfsd

But people can just generally stare at someone for hundreds of reason. It's the way they stare that makes it different. In what way would a guy who likes a girl stare at them? And do they stare not knowing how obvious it usually is?

samantha writes:

Subject: not sure

Hi my name is sam and theres this guy who like me, he told me that and before that he told one of my freinds to tell me that he like's me. But, he always asks that one girl and I dont know if he likes me or her. Now, I know that sounds like he likes me and he's shy, but, He asks her alot to tell me.

Meg writes:

Subject: He might be a player

Hey my name is Meg and i have a friend that I like and he has told me that he likes me too. We have even discussed possibly dating in the future when things are right in our lives. Because we both just don't want to date for fun we want to date with the view towards marriage. But he talks to alot of other girls and has no trouble touchin other girls. Like putting his arm around them. But he is stand offish towards me and is hesitant to touch me. He will but he doesn't seem comfortable to do so. I just want to know if he really likes me or if he just likes alot of girls?

Kath writes:

Subject: Hmmm

Next time be sure to go to nummyz.com to ask relationship problems because I don't always check these comments.

Sabrina: Well if there's that glazed over look with eyes that are soft, it's like he's staring and like you. Or his eyes are widened and he seems happy/surprised. as for staring, i know the stare and the quick turn means he likes ya!

Sam: I'm not sure, maybe he's afraid of hearing a rejection from you. maybe you should just talk to him and ask him?

Janele writes:

Subject: A little too late?

So this guy pretty much flirts with me(resting his arm around me and whispers sweet compliments in my ear). Anyway, so this guy seems pretty genuine and he even ask me out(wasn't EXACT wording but that was basically his point). My problem is is that I like him, but he was acting different before. Now I'm unsure whether or not to go with him. I've been waiting for this right? So why is it so hard for me to say yes?

Brandi writes:

Subject: mmmmm

how is it that you realy know when a guy likes you? If the guy stares at you and comes over and gently pokes you does it mean he may have an intrest; many of his friends are tellying me he may have an intreast, but how is it that you know for shore?

Kathleen writes:

Subject: hmmm

Chances are you have your doubts with this guy. Or you have what I have, the air of mystery and want is gone and he's no longer a challenge. Or even committment phobia. Ask yourself, do I see myself with this guy? Do I want to be with this guy? If you answer yes, then what are you waiting for? But if you have your doubts, there's an underlying reason. Search hard within yourself and you'll see. What do you mean he's acting differently?

Why is it so hard to say yes? Well, there are so many reasons. Which one is it? The air of mystery and challenge gone? If this is the one, then you really didn't like him, you just saw him as a challenge and now that you have him wrapped around your fingers, you feel bored? I guess?

Committment phobia?

If you really like him, all i can say is go for it and let it flow like a river! life's too short to complicate things!

dawn writes:

Subject: hard of hearing

Ok, there is this guy that i have a mad crush on. i know he likes me, because i catch him checking me out. we flirt alot as well. i consider him a friend i mean its not like we do not know of each other. i can pretty much talk to him about anything like issues with my family. yet when it comes to small talk, casual converstaions, he is really quiet? he is more talkative towards other girls, but they work out of him.

dee writes:

Subject: does he like me? or is he a player?

There is this guy,who I like. He teases me in front of everyone like coming over to where Iam sitting and just stand there and say stuff, just so that he can draw attention to me and him . I have caught him staring at me in secret a couple of times and once I caught staring at me and when I looked at him, he stared at me for like 3 seconds and then looked the other way. He also says to me "are you doing a certain subject because I will be doing that next semester". I dont know if this guy is a player or not?

Liza writes:

Subject: Does he like me?

Theres this guy that I like but am not sure that he likes me. All of my friends keeps telling me that he does like me. He is a very shy guy and does not talk alot to me. But we are starting to get close now. Last week he invited me to a party but only me and he said that he was going to invite other people but he din't. Today when he came in he smiled more than he did and is starting to talk to me a little more. He told me that theres this new girl that he likes but does not want to tell me the name. He told me that name of the girl he had a crush on last year but he does not want to tell me this one. He said to me " well this one I cant tell you about" He also stares at me and gives me his cute smile. I want to tell him that I like him but I dont know if he likes me or not.

R.R. writes:

Subject: H.F.

well i dont know what to do this boy H.F. says to me and to our close friends (we have alot of the same) that he really likes me and wants to date me... and when me and him are alone hints drop like CRAZY.. but its like when hes around his friends only and like around people at school.. hes not even into me and hes just like moving on with his life.. almost like everything in our past never really happend? what am I supposed to do I feel like hes playing me but if I tell him that he'll get offensive and tell me that I know he likes me

kat writes:

Subject: hmmm

well it's strange... because you say he's nice to you when you're alone with him and then only when hes around friends or with people at school--

this guy can be a total jerk if he's playing with your affections. Tell him okay, let's date and see his reaction. if his affections are true, he'll date you in a snap of a finger :)

Lizzy writes:

Subject: Church crush

There is this guy at my church that I really like and I think he likes me too but he's 4 years older than me and he always makes moves on me but he's never asked me out.

Also, he even tried to kiss me once, but then his mom walked in (YIKES) he got in trouble. How do i get him to make a commitment and ask me out?

kat writes:

Subject: i think he will ask u soon :)

first off, how old are you? if you say 14 then I say, please wait until you're 18 to date him lol.

I don't know about this, he already does like you I mean if not he wouldn't do all these things... just show him you are very interested, smile, be happy, and throw hints yourself. :)

Valerie writes:

Subject: I'm so shy!

I have a problem! I really really like this one guy. I have his email address and we've been emailing back and forth. There are two problems: 1.) I can't really think of what to say! I run out of things to write, and I don't know how he will respond! 2.) I've been thinking of telling him I like him over email and then asking if he likes me back. How should I do this? I'm so shy! Thank you! Please help!

jinny writes:

Subject: THIS IS SO TRUE

I just read this and I have to say that EVERYTHING you said is so true and real. Girls, this is so true!! I've experienced the 'booty call/player' guy and he holds all those qualities. Just because a guy seems smooth and confident doesn't make him the right guy for you. Confident guys don't always have to be bad boys!!

emily writes:

Subject: unsure

i have hung out with this guy for a long time and i realy like him he acts like he likes me and i read your article and he is not mean at all always says i look pretty. always huggs me and stuff but i am unsure what "we are" if you know what i mean. i know i should ask but i am afraid of the answer. he doesn't like it when i hug my other guy friends and around them always holds on to me. but then he will flirt with other girls but always looks back at me while he does it! idk what to do!!!!!!!!