Avril writes:

Subject: Not attracted to obese husband

Wow my hubby was gorgeous when we were dating teens. He was in better shape than me, I wasn't overweight just average, but he was body training. He told me that if I ever got fat that he wouldn't be attracted to me. I later married him. Now 18 years and four kids later, I am in the best shape of my life with a petite athletic frame, but he is obese. I jog 8-10 miles a day but he won't even walk with me. We are still married and I would never leave him but I am not attracted to him. I am repulsed by his body. This is not the man I married or dated.

Isn't overeating sin? Why should I feel like I am sinning because of his overindulgence with food, causing me to not be attracted to him? Isn't self control a fruit of the spirit? I am a Christian and have read Christian books that say, and heard women say they we must stay trim for our husbands but does that same rule not apply for a man? I have had talks about how I feel and have tried to be sensitive. I have done the advice given to this woman. It doesn't work with mine.

This has been going on for years and I don't know what to do. So now I do nothing and say nothing. I'll never leave but I just feel like a roommate/friend to him. We don't go on dates because he is busy with work and I with my children and work. I don't know. Sad thing is that my daughter follows his bad habits and is border line obese.