Mike Pellette writes:

Subject: Help

Stacie. First & foremost I will like to thank you for posting this article. I was looking for a womans pov.

I have been married for 10 yrs & have 2 beautiful daughters. I love them to death.

Over the 15 yrs I have been w/ my wife our relationship has gone from bf/gf, husband/wife, to what now seems to be just roommates.

There has been a major disconnect for a long time. We can go days without speaking to 1 another. The only conversations we have revolve around me spending money on something or the girls.

It breaks my heart. There is no sign of public affection on her end. I have tried for years to give her a hug, or hold her hand only to be rejected. The loneliness I feel is great. Sex is very rare. Then after it is over she goes & sleeps w/ our youngest daughter, or the couch. Anywhere but our bedroom.

I have brought up counseling to no avail. I'm told the the problems in the marriage are 95% my fault. I am constantly picked. All I have ever done was work & come home to my family. I've gone out w/ friends 4 times this whole year. I've never cheated or flirted. This is because I believe in ending something before starting something else.

All the years of being rejected & pushed aside has now made me not love her other than the fact she is the mother of my children. They are the reason that I am staying. I have been selfless to a fault my whole life. In the end I'm the one who has gotten hurt.

I need to end this & don't know what to do. I have tried, but hate myself for letting things get this way.

Thanks for listening & for writing this article.