Any of the Wedding Speeches can bring about a strong inhalation of fear mixed with dread. The ones that often has the most stigma are the best man speeches. Possibly because we all have a story of where it all went horribly wrong.

I have one of those stories myself - at my own wedding with our best man and his speech. He completely and utterly choked, big time. And then as he tried to dig himself out of it, it got worse and worse until a well meaning guest asked him to STOP!

Fortunately though in recent years - it's gotten easier because of the Internet and info sharing. You can now access excellent quality (as they are written by professional speakers/writers - who have also given more than one best man speech - so very qualified!) pre-written speeches.

And the beauty is that they do work across the board. That was my first reservation when my husband went on this journey when he had to give a best man speech - was what if they sound tacky?

Short answer - they don't.

The jokes were unexpectedly great too - genuinely funny.

Fortunately you also get tips on delivery. But what I've seen is that because all the work's essentially done for you - it becomes easier for the best man to get into the head-space of delivering it well.

Here are some important delivery tips - these are relevant for any speech you give (my qualifications for sharing this myself? I am also a professional speaker/writer).

Key Tips To Delivering Great Best Man Speeches

1. Be yourself - audiences are like children, they are excited and want you to do well. And if are not being real with them they rapidly go off you and will begin to show it with their body language and interest (and at worse some will display bad behaviors)

So an audience prefers someone who does stutter or makes mistakes than someone who gets up there and puts on airs and graces that are not them.

2. This is not about you! Often we get so caught up in our own fear and drama about delivering 'the big speech' that we take our focus off why we are really there - to do a job for other people. When we remember why we are there - and recommit to that, it seem to relax - as it's not about us, it's about them (the bride and groom)

3. Know your content. Do have something written down. Do have practiced. Don't try to rote learn it if that is not your preferred learning style. Instead make some notes and have some highlighted bullet points (conversely don't try to wing it - it doesn't work for this kind of occasion)

4. Have fun and remember to smile! An audience responds to your mood and demeanor. Smiles are infectious - on men as much as women.

Those tips put to use will work for you, I assure you. And again remember - you do not need to put yourself through the stress of writing your own speech these days. And it will still seem authentic and as if it was written especially for your bride and groom.

Go see for yourself here now: Best Man Speeches