A divorce cannot permanently end a relationship of love. A divorce may be a result of dishonesty and loss of faith in the conjugal life, but the couple may still give a second thought to their relationship. That is reconciling after divorce.

Your second start may prove strong enough to last forever as the previous relationship has already been through many hurdles and both you and your spouse are aware of the previous mistakes. But the thought of reconciliation must be sincere, and there are a number of things that you have to pay attention to.

1. Don't decide in haste- if you are thinking of reconciling after divorce, take time to ponder over it, whether you really want it seriously or it's just a thought. Give enough time to your spouse as well to think over your decision so that both the spouses have equal involvements in the decision and it doesn't becomes a one-sided conclusion.

2. Reconcile your soul- first try to clear your mind and soul of the past incidents so that you can make yourself reconcilable. First try to forgive yourself then expect others to forgive you.

3. Reconcile to your spouse- after you feel that you are now able to forgive yourself you can ask for your spouse to reconcile. Your mind and heart must be free from all past grudges, anger and mistrust to understand the real essence of the love between you and your spouse.

4. Consult with marriage counselor- reconciliation after divorce should be a very sincere decision based on lessons learned from your previous mistakes. You need to find out the reasons that are responsible for the split in your marital relationship. You can always take the help of a marriage counselor to fix all your problems and to make sure such mistakes does not happen again.

5. If it's dark, light up a candle- without blaming each other you can focus on each others positive aspects. Think what qualities your spouse has that made you fall in love with him or her.

6. You should always try hard to spend some more time with your spouse- give your spouse some time to think over the decision of reconciliation and to consider your reasons behind it. This will improve the communication between you and your spouse and there will be less chances of misunderstandings.

7. If you are planning a reconciliation after divorce, and you are honest in your decision, first confirm that your spouse also thinks alike or not. If you are sure that the decision involves both you and your spouse equally and both of you are serious about this, then inform your children and family. This will delight them more than a one sided decision which has less probabilities to come true.

Reconciliation is always possible if both the spouses are sincere about a fresh beginning.