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Shaun Kieran - EzineArticles.com Expert Author
Shaun Kieran consults to organizations and workplaces, coaches supervisors to "coach" their employees, and coaches people who have responsibilities for others: parents, teachers, case managers, human services managers, directors of non-profits, and helpers generally. He lives and works on the coast of Maine.
He also specializes in Coaching around divorce - learning, coping, recovering from - and moving forward.
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- Divorce - Getting the Lessons Right
[Relationships:Divorce] Divorce is too powerful an episode in anyone's life to just let it go to waste. People who lead serious, productive lives learn from all of their experiences - especially one as primary as the end of their marriage. It's not wallowing, it's not shouldering blame that's not deserved. It's learning about yourself - and life.
- Post Divorce - 3 Ways to Gauge How You're Doing As You Move Through Your Divorce
[Relationships:Post-Divorce] Transitioning through a divorce is one of the toughest things an adult will ever do. But it's even harder if you give in to the "tragedy," and use it as a reason not to notice how you're doing, or whether you're holding yourself to reasonable standards.
- Surviving Divorce - Three Reasons to Take the High Road
[Relationships:Divorce] Transitioning well through a divorce is one of the toughest things an adult will ever do. Taking the high road, which is hard for some, is actually the most practical way to get past the pain and struggle - and get where you really want to go.
- Divorce - How It's Also an Opportunity - Part I
[Relationships:Divorce] Divorce certainly is a wake-up call that where you thought you were going in your marriage and your life isn't working out that way. Modern life can be so filled with things that have to be gotten done or managed that many people haven't been aware of the toll it's taken. Divorces break into the trance and in addition to yet more things that now have to be done, there are free flowing emotions that can no longer be kept under wraps.
- Divorce - What Have You Learned?
[Relationships:Post-Divorce] Divorce can be such a devastating experience for some people that they fail to sort out what really happened in a way that helps them live better. They might rebound into a new relationship that simply repeats the script, or they become bitter, cynical, skittish, untrusting - and miss out on happiness that's there to live. The way for that to NOT happen is to think, feel, and discuss the relationship honestly - and learn.
- Divorce - Tell Yourself And the World A "New Story"
[Relationships:Divorce] We understand more than ever the power of "story" in shaping productive lives. Positive Psychology and Narrative Psychology study the way humans tend to experience their lives, and those of others, through "real" stories they tell themselves - and that creating good stories, that allow for "updating," is crucial to learning and happiness.
- Divorce - Stop the War, Start Living
[Relationships:Divorce] There's more nastiness and destructive behavior when marriages dissolve. Not only is it ugly, it's harmful to the participants and the children. Taking the high road is classy, smart, and gets it all over sooner.
- Divorced Parents With Kids in Special Ed - The Urgency to Stop the Nonsense
[Relationships:Divorce] Special Ed either helps your child, or it's a complete waste of time. The conflict that goes on between some divorced spouses makes it almost impossible to focus on the needs of the kids, and the part parents must play to optimize success. Stop the nonsense.
- Divorce - Handling the First Few Days is Crucial
[Relationships:Divorce] The devastation of divorce can be helped considerably if the first few days are handled well. Consultation with someone should focus on handling immediate tasks and challenges well, managing emotions, and then seeking counseling, therapy, or coaching to understand, learn from the experience, and heal.
- Parenting Through Divorce - Job #1 - And an Opportunity
[Relationships:Divorce] Good people feel badly about putting their kids through divorce. They can also feel extremely anxious, overwhelmed, resentful, inadequate, and unfairly burdened. As hard as the whole thing can be, it's much harder if you let those feelings get the upper hand. Divorce is actually an opportunity to focus, do the right thing, learn, and be the person you aspire to be.
- Divorce - Parenting a Teen While Going Through a Divorce
[Relationships:Divorce] Everyone knows divorce is devastating to children, of course, but divorce hits teenagers even harder because they're just starting to test the waters and "play act" adult roles - while really still being kids in so many ways. They need as much adult involvement and supervision as is humanly possible, but divorce can be so exhausting and poisonous for the parents that they have even less capacity to cope with all the ups and downs that go with parenting a modern teenager.
- Divorce - Six Tips For Navigating Your Divorce
[Relationships:Divorce] Divorce is a human disaster only made worse when you don't commit to managing yourself, and being the best person you have in you to be. Here are six basic tips that provide a framework for focusing, containing, and managing your strong feelings.
- Divorce is an Opportunity
[Relationships:Divorce] "Yeah, sure!" I can just hear people saying that to themselves when they read the title, and - when I'm in that kind of mood - I can be there too: skeptical about casually painting a smiley face on something as huge as divorce. No matter how solid a citizen you think you are, divorce disrupts the "script," and, if you're not careful, can bring out a dark, ugly reaction that's amazing to witness.
- Divorce - Don't Deny the Hurt
[Relationships:Post-Divorce] Divorce tests your emotional health, your belief in people, and your hope for a good future. Too often people talk themselves into a way they ought to feel, which isn't what's really true. That can be dangerous.
- Divorce Wisdom - Take the High Road (Even Though It's Hard)
[Relationships:Divorce] Too many people take the gloves off during a divorce, and end up hurting themselves more than they help themselves. As a practical matter, being "classy" helps you get more of what you need and want. This is the time to be the person you have it in you to be. Your future depends on it.
- Coaching Case Managers - Thoughts For a New and Idealistic Mental Health Provider
[Self-Improvement:Coaching] Idealism, hope, and clear-eyed reality need to be juggled, then reconciled for someone to have a fulfilling career in the Human Services in the postmodern world. Alienation and burnout are occupational hazards, and can best be prevented by being self-aware, not too self-important, and adapting to the clients' needs. A veteran clinician shares some wisdom with someone just starting out.
- Supervisors - Be Proactive, It's A Major Key To Managerial Success
[Business:Management] Head right toward problems, as soon as possible - be proactive. Be quick to want to know, slow to criticize or assign blame. Frame things as experiments toward getting it right - situations to be understood, and from which to learn.
- Supervisors - Know What's Expected, And How Success Will Be Measured
[Business:Change-Management] Supervision requires attention to multiple sources of information. Talk to your folks about where they've been, as well as where they'd like to go. Talk to your own boss, more than once, about expectations and how success will be measured from that perspective. Over the course of several conversations, get a feel for the amount and kinds of pressures coming down from on high, and under what circumstances.
- Supervisor's Basic Tip For Success - Learn What Everyone Does
[Business:Management] As a manager, not only should you know what all of your employees do, you should also know how each job connects to the others, and at least theoretically be able to perform them yourself. It's flattering to your employees that you know what they do, which means you also know what they need. Listen, learn, communicate. A workplace is a mini-culture, and you're a major character in that world.
- What Every Supervisor Should Know To Succeed - Set The Example
[Business:Management] The successful supervisor sets the tone, and is a major influence on workplace culture. Model what you expect from your employees. Appreciate and admire talent and energy. Give credit where it's due, shoulder blame, especially on behalf of your people to upper management. Be visibly curious, be relaxed, be open to suggestions, communicate an expectation of success for everyone, accept being wrong when it's true - say "thank you" a lot.
- New Managers - Walk Around And Meet The People You Supervise
[Business:Management] Way too often, the employees' first contact with a new manager is at a staff meeting called to introduce the "new guy." If you're that "new guy," it's much better all around for you to get out and visit each employee on his or her own turf. Remember, from the first moment they lay eyes on you, your direct reports are gauging how enthusiastic, overwhelmed, competent, full of yourself, trusting, trustworthy, etc.
- Leadership Transition - 8 Tasks Every New Leader Should Accomplish Right Away
[Self-Improvement:Leadership] Getting off on the right foot is crucial to a new manager's success. There are a few simple tasks which help to ensure a positive tone and a solid base of human connections, as well as to facilitate communication of important information - both ways - for moving forward.
- Underachieving Smart People - Understanding Their Struggles To Succeed
[Self-Improvement:Success] A high IQ doesn't ensure success. For a variety of reasons, some very smart people have great difficulty carving out lives for themselves. Despite sometimes being arrogant and difficult, very smart people, and those who care about and love them, deserve understanding and help.
- Change - Why Is It So Hard For Most Of Us To Change?
[Self-Improvement] Many people think real change is virtually impossible. That's not true, but there's no getting around how hard it can be. Still, we've learned a few things about why it's so hard, and what it takes really takes to succeed at change.
- Line Supervisors - 11 Mistakes to Avoid at Work
[Business:Management] Being a line supervisor is hard under the best of circumstances. Here are a few pitfalls to avoid as a new or front line manager. It's always best to be positive about being a manager, but sometimes it's good to know what not to do. You don't have to have a natural authoritarian personality to be a good supervisor, but you do have to keep your concentration.
- Stuck Professionals - Hate Your Job? Thrive Or Escape
[Business:Careers-Employment] Many people are "stuck" in jobs they hate, but can't leave for valid reasons. Even though they can't simply walk away, there are basic strategies for coping which may not be obvious to the distressed employee. These are the elementary principles for escaping your personal "desert island."
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