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Kare Anderson - EzineArticles.com Expert Author
Emmy-winning former Wall Street Journal and NBC reporter, Kare Anderson is the author of SmartPartnering, Resolving Conflict Sooner, Getting What You Want, Walk Your Talk, Beauty Inside Out and LikeAbility and publisher of Moving From Me to We, Say it Better and Healthier Air at Home, collectively serving over 42,000 subscribers in 26 countries.
She speaks and writes on communicating to collaborate to become high-performing and happier with others. Her clients are as diverse ... [More]
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- Handling Criticism With Honesty and Grace
[Self-Improvement:Personal-Growth] A client just called us to order 5,000 copies of a slender book I wrote years ago. He said that he wished he'd called sooner, before the sides had hardened between the people in his corporation. Now several squabbling people were proving themselves right about why the others were wrong. (Especially in times of conflict, we make negative assumptions about why others do what they do.)
- Forge Stronger Friendships
[Relationships:Friendship] When meeting Natasha, photographer Rick Smolan never imagined she'd be an emotional thread of continuity for his life. Human stories take unexpected turns, especially next year. I've got your back and you've got mine. That's a mighty welcome feeling as we enter 2009. Why? Because, more than any of the last 25 years, 2009 will crackle with change, unexpected loss and fresh opportunities to be there for each other. Consequently, prepare by picturing your Circles of Connection. On whom can you most depend and how? What can you ask of each other?
- How to Give and Make Money
[News-and-Society:Environmental] Give away downloadable, eco-friendly house plans - and make money? Others could adapt this startup's healthy Me2We path to profitability, using their kind of expertise. Plus you could enjoy the camaraderie that comes from collaborating on projects that benefit people around the world.
- Got Expertise? Want a Livelihood, Sharing it With Others?
[Business:Entrepreneurialism] As an independent business owner seeking a change in your work life what if you taught others exactly how to succeed in your kind of business? That could be a lucrative consulting business.
- Unfair! Revenge - How Women and Men Act
[Relationships] Men and women can use meditation to change our instinctively negative reactions - even in the face of unfair or otherwise negative behavior. Monitoring the brains of Tibetan monks at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, neuroscience professor Richard Davidson found that the monk' first instinct was compassion rather than anger.
- Working Closer in a Collapsing Economy
[Business:Entrepreneurialism] "Even people who are antisocial feel a need to be around other people for at least part of the day while they're working," says researcher Laura Forlano. That's why soloists are bootstrapped into being a co-working space in Austin called Conjunctured.
- We Will Not Fight This Holiday
[Relationships:Communication] Rather than a fake-friendly question to highlight his ignorance, a sarcastic retort, shouting or silently seething - try alleviating the friction that's at the core of the conflict. After all you chose to marry him. I'm not saying it's easy. Yet unsettled resentments usually cause two-way sabotage, in the moment and in the future, so it is worth trying something different to save the relationship.
- Use Humor to Defuse Tension, Befriend and Have More Fun
[Relationships:Communication] Humor requires a target. If you make a bulls-eye out of someone weaker, particularly if you initiate the attack, you look like a bully. Take aim, instead, at the powerful. Or, rather than getting upset, consider yourself lucky when someone makes you a target first.
- Be Our Leader When That Crisis Hits Next Year
[Business:Change-Management] I was born lucky. At the "up" end of Marty Seligman's pessimistic/ optimistic temperament continuum. Yet this is my dire prediction for 2009 plus a bit of advice. In this volatile time, the Law of Unintended Consequences will strike repeatedly - in unexpected places. Organizations will need to act quickly but most - large and small - will be unprepared. Unfortunately, most will react.
- How Exhibitors and Speakers Can Profitably Partner
[Business:Marketing-Direct] Exhibitors: here's a surefire way to attract more warmed-up prospects to your booth, learn about their needs and bond with them as a festive part of the conference. As a speaker, I've forged value-building alliances with exhibitors that you can adapt to your kind of exhibiting.
- Got a Loafer on Your Team Or Committee?
[Business:Team-Building] Is someone not pulling their weight yet expecting to enjoy the fruits of your group's hard work? Here are five tips to prevent freeloading. Avoid the unattractive, energy-sucking role of the nag. Instead increase the chances of bringing out the best talents and temperament in everyone. That makes work more productive and life more fun.
- How We Sometimes Fool Ourselves When Making Decisions
[Self-Improvement:Techniques] Remember a decision you made that cost you dearly? In retrospect, you realize a different choice would have saved time, aggravation and perhaps a relationship. What if you found that your mind played tricks on you?
- How Many Personalities Are Inside You?
[Self-Improvement:Techniques] Once you realize you really have very different sides to your personality, then you can see how to live happily with others - understanding they do too. What side of the do you bring out?
- How We Can Argue Better
[Self-Improvement:Techniques] "Presidential candidate George Bush will be active in making pronouncements in the coming weeks... He wants to define himself before his opponents do it for him," intoned a radio commentator when the first Bush became president. Yes, nicknames stick. "To name a thing is not the same as to know a thing," Richard Feynman wrote, yet naming is a potent persuasion tool.
- "Buy Local" Isn't Enough - How to Adapt Delish's Customer-Attracting Method to Your Local Business
[Business] "Buy local and keep the money in our community" cry many local retailers and restaurateurs. Yet guilt is not the top motivator to inspire spending - unless you're a nearby farmer.
- How to Feel Up in a Down Economy
[Self-Improvement:Positive-Attitude] When feeling down here's some simple things to do to get you through. Only the loony disregard this crashing economy.
- Keep Clients From Leaving in a Dire Economy
[Business:Workplace-Communication] Your customers are tempted to include your business in their cost-cutting efforts. Act now to offer extra value, adopting a method that won't cost you more. In fact, it often reduces overhead. Two rival businesses are using it. How to become a "must keep" service or product provider - even in a down economy.
- Why it Helps Us to Cheer Up Sooner Rather Than Later
[Self-Improvement:Positive-Attitude] How to elevate your mood - and that of those around you. What a way to be popular, eh?
- Start a Twitter-Based Business Or Twitter to Sell More - Five Success Stories
[Internet-and-Businesses-Online:Social-Media] Choose where to live by asking locals about their neighborhood. Listen in on their conversations or jump in and ask their advice - from wherever you are.
- Disagree? How to Keep Talking Instead of Arguing
[Relationships:Communication] How to recognize your hot buttons and avoid letting others - when negative - to determine your behavior. He takes a stupid stand. (Translation: he hit my hot button.) My first response is to dislike him. (Apparently that's a universal reaction.) My distaste shows on my face and in my tone, despite my attempt to cover my feelings in a cloak of civility. Even friends or sympathetic bystanders take a psychic step back.
- Profitable Way to Leverage Your Talents and Resources With Others
[Business:Entrepreneurialism] Launch a business or adapt yours to enable others to squeeze money out of idle resources - especially ones they did not know could generate income. As the economy continues to wobble you'll see more businesses that serve this growing need.
- Where Does Your Kind of Humor Get You With Others?
[Self-Improvement:Inspirational] "Wall Street swindler Bernie Madoff failed to protect his assets with a bankruptcy motion. His lawyer tried to get all charges dropped. He argued that Madoff is no longer a threat to society because there aren't any rich people anymore," writes Argus Hamilton in jest.
- Is Gladwell Right About What's Most Likely to Make You Successful?
[News-and-Society:Pure-Opinion] Why and how some behavioral and other researchers disagree with Malcolm Gladwell's message in Outlier - what makes some people especially successful. I admit that my summary of the book is not as fascinating or sticky as the vignettes in it, yet see if Gladwell's conclusions surprise you:
- Opportunity Makers Are the True Leaders in a Flattening World
[Business:Entrepreneurialism] In a connected world the opportunity maker style of leadership has become the most popular and likely way to optimize an organization's performance. Other than your best talent your most vital trait is the capacity to collaborate - especially with people extremely unlike you.
- Collaboration - Your Key Skill to Thriving in an Uncertain World
[Business:Entrepreneurialism] The shocking moment for rising stars is when they meet someone who's rising faster. For some of us this happens in fourth grade, for others it's in college or on a job. The good news is that you've still got a way to get ahead. Even now. And it's more fun. Hear how in my conversation with Zane Safrit.
- Offer Special Touches (Your Partners Provide) That Your Competition Doesn't
[Business:Entrepreneurialism] Who knows how many people choose to stay at the Ritz Carlton rather than at another luxury hotel because of an added thrill, complimentary use of a brand new Mercedes during their stay? (They're "both synonymous with sophisticated styling.") Holiday Inn Express partnered with Kohler to roll out a SimplySmart "shower program", offering guests an "upgrade" - the opportunity to try Kohler's new multi-function showerhead and spa bath.
- Attract More Customers Yet Reduce Overhead
[Business:Retail] Collaborate in ways that enable you to generate more visibility, credibility and ability to serve more people better. Here's some ways.
- Six Profitable Ways to Teach Groups What You Know
[Business:Entrepreneurialism] Make money by teaching people how they can start a successful business like you did or lead a group in learning a life skill or other expertise they value. If a coffee shop owner and a former minister can make money by leading groups then, perhaps, so can you and I.
- Launch a Visitor Attracting Blogger Invasion of Your Town
[Business:Marketing] Invite knowledgeable bloggers to visit your town, showing what makes you proud about living there. A bison ranch, Cosmosphere, Amish community and salt museum are sights to see in Hutchinson, Kansas.
- Reach Prospective Clients on Their Turf
[Business:Marketing] Attract clients by demonstrating your expertise in ways, times and places they find helpful and convenient. "Recognize the Often Hidden Signs of a Heart Attack" is the 30-minute briefing that attracts the biggest attendance when a cardiologist speaks at nearby retirement homes. Fear often drives people to attend so the title gets them in the door.
- How Your Mailer Will Not Go in Their Waste Basket
[Business:Marketing-Direct] Co-create the tip sheet and other help for prospective customers to buy from you for a specific situation. At home, we usually stand over a wastebasket when quickly perusing mail.
- Become a Bigger Customer Magnet by Co-Locating
[Business:Retail] As a local serving business you can attract more customers and per-customer sales by getting closer to other businesses that serve the same kind of customer. Here are some ways to forge smart partnerships with nearby, reputable retailers and service providers.
- Passive Men and Wild, Wild Women (How Stop Fighting)
[Relationships:Communication] Once we see there are easy, almost inevitable ways to slip into making our spouse or partner wrong and simple ways to avoid them (with practice) and enjoy the big payoffs of a flourishing relationship why would we not try to adapt in the ways suggested here? They aren't easy but they'll make you happier than the alternatives.
- The Enduring Power of Brian's Slow Approach to Partnering
[Self-Improvement:Inspirational] How do you try to get others to change? As a know-it-all recent college grad (better than being fearful at that point, right?) I became a Coro Foundation Fellow, ready and restless to make the world better before returning to my true calling as a journalist. Through short internships in Coro with leaders in business, labor, government and non-profits we 12 fellows explored how change happens and ways to serve, no matter what sector we chose for work.
- How to Get People to Do the "Right" Thing
[Self-Improvement:Techniques] What swayed more people to get out and vote for Obama? The same method that could motivate more people to buy from you.
- How Humorless People Affect Us
[Business:Workplace-Communication] How to not harden yourself against apparently humorless people, perhaps even open them up. Like scent, humor has extremely offensive or captivating effects on us, depending on the kind.
- Speed Coaching - A Fast, Fun Way to Get Expert Advice
[Self-Improvement:Coaching] Want to savor food (or fashion) slowly but grow your career or business faster? Then, for your work, try a Speed Coaching event. From Hong Kong to Anaheim, this wildly popular format is being adopted to serve diverse crowds quickly. They range from those who got pink slips to food and beverage folks, non-profit staffers, journalists, executives, students, government staffers, indie business owners and, well, even coaches. It may be your next business - or way to attract clients.
- How What You Hear, See Or Feel Affects What You Think Or Do
[Reference-and-Education:Psychology] Priming is one of the most palpable ways to influence others to act - or to be aware that you can be persuaded when others use it. This persuasion technique probably won't work on hormonally-hit teenagers (sorry weary parents) yet you could try it on spouses, co-workers or customers.
- Coddle Local and Lucrative Niche Customers
[Business:Customer-Service] Last Valentine's Day, several neighborhood businesses including an event planner (she organized it), dentist, women's medical clinic, florist, health food store, clothing boutique, shopper newspaper, museum store, gym, bookstore and beauty salon joined forces for a month-long promotion to attract and serve women, especially those 30 and older. The bookstore hosted a series of "Beauty Inside Out" - themed series of in-store demonstrations and mini-seminars each led by a manager of one of the participating businesses and highlighting a book collection and the local partners' related products and services.
- Bring Out Their Best Side So They Can See Yours
[Self-Improvement:Leadership] Act as if he means well, especially if he appears not to - not for his sake, but for yours. The more you can look to someone else's positive intent, the greater the likelihood you can respond to her comments before she adds more or elaborates.
- What to Do When a Friend Betrays You
[Relationships:Friendship] Last month two friends broke trust. One offered to do something vital, didn't and didn't tell me. Another shared private information about me with a stranger. I don't know which felt worse. I do know it's a sign to re-learn lessons. Remember when you felt betrayed?
- A Clue to Why Friendships Enable Women to Live Longer
[Relationships:Friendship] Letting down one's guard. Chatting. Getting to know each other in comfortable ways. These are not frivolous activities for women after all.
- Even If They Did Not Intend To, Get Them to Recall What You Say
[Business:Workplace-Communication] Here's the key emotional cues that cause us to pay attention. After all, you can attract, sell, lead or get respect or appreciation if you can't first get their attention. Right?
- How Will You Be Remembered? Why Waiters Cried Serving Breakfast
[Self-Improvement:Leadership] You may not call it karma but offering constant, authentic support and praise usually pays off, often in unexpected ways. Do it, not for a reward but because it is right - life life like theatre and you are in a magnificent play - as a significant character.
- What to Do When That Jerk Does it Again
[Business:Workplace-Communication] Rather than escalating into bigger conflict when face with difficult behavior or worse, see how to sidestep or resolve conflict or work around it - even demonstrating how to keep cool while under fire. Imagine! Someone's difficult behavior is an opportunity for you to show your innate decency...
- Nine Joyful Steps For Making a Big Change Permanent
[Self-Improvement] There is a Tibetan saying "If you want to know your future, look at what you are doing in this moment." This may seem childlike but I find it easiest to make a big change in my life by picturing a very specific and compelling reward for it - and other rewards for each small step towards that change.
- What Makes You Laugh?
[Self-Improvement:Happiness] Since the right kind of humor breaks tension, brings us closer and so much more - what can you do to get people laughing? Here's some help from the research.
- Without Words, How We Connect With Each Other - Or Not
[Self-Improvement] We can literally feel what another person is feeling in real time, research shows. Understanding that capacity and how to tap it can improve our ability to inspire, collaborate, lead and avoid conflict.
- Repeating Positive Affirmations Backfires For Many of Us
[Self-Improvement:Affirmations] Eric and Emma, the couple up the hill from me in Sausalito have been married 54 years, they proudly told me. They walked, hand-in-hand past my home each morning, usually laughing, smiling and pointing out things to each other along the way.
- Listen to Lead
[Self-Improvement:Leadership] When in a meeting, explicitly support others' best ideas to jumpstart a path towards mutual agreement or idea adoption. As others see the best sides demonstrated in each other they are more likely to act in goodwill and with an open mind towards the next ideas offered by someone in the group. And you become the safe center of the group - the de facto leader.
- Retailers - To Sell More See Your Store As Customers Experience It
[Business:Retail] In a time-pressed culture, increasingly complex and option-rich culture, customers appreciate pro-active, informed and thoughtful problem-solving action in store staff, especially when those customers are considering the purchase of indulgences such as gourmet food. In fact, these qualities in motivated staff may be the most cost-effective methods for standing out from the increasing number of competitors you face, while avoiding costly price wars.
- Prevent Your Children From Losing Lung Capacity As They Age
[Health-and-Fitness:Home-Health-Care] Protect Your Children From Dangerous Air Pollution Researchers comparing air quality in six U.S. cities were "stunned" to learn "that people living in cities with the dirtiest air died on average two years earlier than residents of cities with the cleanest air.
- Is Your Home Air Making You Sick?
[Home-Improvement:Energy-Efficiency] Home air has become more polluted than outdoor air, causing a steep rise in asthma, allergies and other respiratory illnesses - and even heart damage - for which children, work-at-homes and the elderly are especially vulnerable. Innovations in whole home air cleaners are motivating more people to take control of air quality in the one place they can control - their home. In this article, learn how to find the most efficient system that can remove the tiny but dangerous RSPs that can go deep into the lungs and cause permanent damage.
- Your Gut Instincts & Ability to Get Along Quiz
[Self-Improvement:Attraction] Get along better, with more kinds of people, even and especially in difficult
situatyions and your attract more opportunity and less stress. Understanding gut instinctual reactions is the place to start honing that skill until it is second nature - almost - and this quiz will jumpstart that learning.
- How Speakers, Exhibitors, Consultants, and Meeting Planners Partner-Generate More Money and Value
[Business:Networking] Learn specific ways to leverage your networking and value to others when
participating in a conference - and generate success for yourself, with others
- Customer-Involving Signage and Selling
[Business:Advertising] If you own a consumer-serving business where people must walk in the door for
your to make money, here's some very specific, easy ways to spur sales and isnpire them to come back and send others.
- How Exhibitors Can Move More Attendees Closer to Buying
[Business:Sales-Management] After giving seminars for exhibitors at over 100 conferences with tradeshows, I've honed these 26 tips to support your success. If you are a conference planner, consider visibly supporting your exhibitors' success by giving them this Tip Sheet in their welcome packet and/or via email before the show.
- The Personal Cost of Shyness
[Self-Improvement:Happiness] A stutterer, labelled as phoebically shy by my unhappy high school counselor I had to find my own way out of my cave into the sunshine with others, and you can too, probably more gracefully than I, yet becoming an Emmy-winning TV commentator with a cherished circle of friendships, I am grateful to share some insights with you today.
- Grab Their Attention
[Self-Improvement:Attraction] Do people stop listening before you stop talking? Be heard, credible and
appreciated by how you attract & keep others' attention...
- We Are All Literally Two-Faced
[Self-Improvement:Attraction] We are worse and reading others' faces than we think, research shows. Discover how your face reveals your private side, and how to discern both the public and private side in others, through reading their faces mroe clearly...
- Profitable Partnering
[Business:Branding] Generate more visibility and value with the right partners and methods to become your kind of customers top-of-mind choice...
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