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How Much Do You Desire Love?
Relationships: Love • Published: February 8, 2012
Do you know how to attract, create and sustain love and loving relationships in your life? I know my thoughts are powerful, my desire is essential, and now I understand I must hold onto a vision of my desire as if it is already being manifested. And I need to take continual steps toward the realization of my dreams and keep trusting that it is materializing into physical form regardless of the appearance of my current physical reality.
The Art of Creating Love
Relationships: Love • Published: February 7, 2012
Do you know how to create loving relationships? When you are truly living your passion and following your heart and your own inner wisdom, you naturally become an attraction magnet. People want to be around you. People want to have what you have and bask in the high level of energy you exude. Creating love becomes an easy and natural habit.
Sexual Desire - The Most Powerful Human Desire
Relationships: Sexuality • Published: December 12, 2011
Sexual desire is the most powerful of human desires. When filled with sexual desire solely for the purpose of having a "sexual" outlet, a man or woman's actions may be disorganized, distorted and even destructive. But when sexual desire is "mixed with the emotion of love," it is the most powerful combined force for creation, procreation and living in a healthy society.
Love Is the Only Power
Relationships: Love • Published: November 22, 2011
I believe there is only one power in this world - LOVE. Negative emotions, evil thoughts, and even demonic actions are actually merely the absence of love. Where love exists, there is little room for anything else. If we can find a way to bring back the love we once shared with our current partner or the loving anticipation we once felt at the thought of meeting someone new, then all things may be possible.
Creating Love - Do You Know How?
Relationships: Love • Published: November 2, 2011
Love is everywhere. Watch a baby smile with total love for life and for all those who reach out with love. Observe a couple in the early stages of passion or an aging couple sharing years of memories in each precious moment together. Each of us can tap into the love that is available or we can shut ourselves off and focus on everything that is not love. Love spreads. The more love you give, the more you are able to receive and the more you enable others to give and to receive.
The Evils of Masturbation
Relationships: Sexuality • Published: May 2, 2011
Believe it or not, in this 21st century, there are still many people who have been taught and believe that masturbation is evil. When first practiced as a youngster, adolescent or teenager, it is often a new and exhilarating experience. The sensations that fill your body can fill you with a sense of power and delight. You can imagine making love to your ideal partner without the dangers of pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases or a broken heart.
Physical and Psychological Causes of Low Sexual Desire
Relationships: Sexuality • Published: April 15, 2011
Low sexual desire can certainly put a damper on the enjoyment of time together with a romantic partner. Some couples meet and feel intense desire and passion for a certain amount of time. But as the relationship progresses and the closeness and commitment intensify, some people begin to lose that spark that they had felt toward their partner. The person who does not feel desire often does not suffer as much as the person who craves the touch and intimacy but keeps being rejected. Persistent rejection can wear down the self-esteem of even the most self-confident and sexually secure person.
Relationship Anger Is Not Cool - Return to Love
Relationships: Conflict • Published: April 14, 2011
Anger management involves remaining "cool" under emotionally stressful situations. To prevent the rage from growing intense, you need to recognize the triggers that set you off when they first begin, way before your thinking mind has given way to your more primitive reptilian brain. Learning how and then actually practicing anger management in the heat of a triggered emotional pattern requires premeditated courage.
Negotiate For Love
Relationships: Conflict • Published: April 14, 2011
Life is not a fairytale. We don't find love, get married, ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. Even in the very best of circumstances where the love has been expressed profusely and the trust is impeccable, two people will not and cannot always see eye to eye. Eventually there will be some points of disagreement and conflict.
6 Ways That Sex Is Healthy For You
Relationships: Sexuality • Published: April 14, 2011
Did you know that sex can be really healthy for your body, mind and spirit? If you are connected with a partner and both are freely choosing to be together, the actual physical act of sexual contact can actually be beneficial to your health.
Men And Women Feel Love and Show Love Differently
Relationships: Love • Published: April 14, 2011
Even though most of us tend to believe that men and women are from different planets, our wants and needs are not really so different. It seems that our desires and what we like to hear and feel tend to play out slightly differently. Underneath it all, both genders want to feel attractive, sexy, desired, comfortable to be themselves, accepted and appreciated, acknowledged, understood and loved. Both sexes tend to be happy when they know they have a partner who cares, is interested and understands what makes them feel good.
Want Your Marriage to Work? - Try These Simple Techniques
Relationships: Marriage • Published: April 13, 2011
The commitment of marriage cannot be taken lightly. Unless you believe in starter marriages and leaving when the going gets tough, your sense of commitment, duty and honor keep you plugging along in what seems like a hopeless situation. Take heart and have hope. Where there was once love, where there was once joy, those wonderful feelings CAN be rekindled.
8 Warning Signs That An Argument Has Gotten Too Hot
Relationships: Conflict • Published: April 12, 2011
When an argument begins, it may be just a discussion. Then one person has a negative reaction and responds in a harsh way. The other person becomes defensive and perhaps raises his or her voice. The first person becomes indignant at the other's response and gets even louder. The argument begins to escalate into in your face confrontations, finger pointing, blaming, swearing, and insulting. If the intensity keeps rising, physical violence may be the next step - pushing, slapping, punching or much worse.
Are You Pursuing Short Term Pleasure or Long Term Love?
Relationships: Love • Published: April 12, 2011
If you are pursuing short term pleasure, you may feel really good right now. You may wake up smiling and feel as though you are flying through your day at work. Your mind may be focused on and eagerly anticipating those upcoming moments of bliss with this person who makes your heart sing. This is the stuff that love songs are made of, the joy of those early days and months and first few years when excitement reigns supreme and sensual love fills all the pores in your body.
You Don't Deserve Love
Relationships: Love • Published: April 12, 2011
If you feel you deserve love, are entitled to love, and should be loved by anyone, even a particular person that you have given everything to, then the problem is your own faulty thinking. Whether you like it or not, nobody owes you anything and certainly, nobody owes it you that they should love you.
I Hate You, Please Love Me
Relationships: Love • Published: April 12, 2011
Why would anyone in their right mind choose to get involved in an intimate relationship with a man or woman who hates them? Logically, it seems that would be a big turn off and the impetus for an instant break up. Unfortunately, very often, the exact opposite happens. Many of us say that we want a loving partner, someone who cares for us above all others. We tell our friends that we are looking for a kind, generous caring man or woman. We write in our journal that we want all these wonderful, giving qualities in our chosen partner. And then we fall in love with someone whose traits don't quite match what we say and believe we want. Why does that happen?
The Road Not Taken In Love
Relationships: Enhancement • Published: April 11, 2011
One of my favorite poems that I read as a youngster is The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost. It begins with a simple dilemma and ends with a realization that one choice eliminates the other choice. We cannot take both paths at the same time. I loved this poem when I first read it, so easy to understand yet so profound. But I had not yet lived my life and taken those paths with no turning back. And I had never before thought of that poem in terms of relationships, especially intimate relationships.
How Do You Know If Your Partner Is In Love With You?
Relationships: Love • Published: April 11, 2011
Loving someone and being "in love" can be two entirely different matters. We love many people. We may love our parents, our children, our friends, our co-workers, our neighbors. When we love someone, we care about their welfare, we show an interest in what they say and do, and we may be willing to listen to their tales of stress and woe.
How To Love A Man Without Scaring Him Off
Relationships: Love • Published: April 11, 2011
So you met the guy of your dreams and you think to yourself, "This could be it." He fits all of your most important criteria - and more. He calls when he says he will, he shows up on time, he brings you thoughtful gifts, he takes you out on interesting dates, and your conversation seems to flow. Recently, you have gotten past the initial niceties and he remains attentive and loving, kind and caring. He talks about future plans and you feel your relationship is in the bag. Watch out!
Couples Conflict Management
Relationships: Conflict • Published: April 11, 2011
The tension and hostility are building. You either lash out at each other, sometimes saying some pretty mean and insulting words, or you clam up and create a wall of silence. Conflict between two people in a relationship, any close relationship, is not only inevitable but can be healthy and cleansing. Engaging in conflict, no matter how difficult, emotionally painful, or frustrating, can actually lead to resolution and better communication.
My Partner Doesn't Know I Have an STD
Health and Fitness: Diseases STDs • Published: April 8, 2011
Okay, you think you have an STD. You have a few symptoms and you've looked online and think your symptoms match those of an STD. Your partner has no idea but you are agonizing over this terrible discovery. What should you do now?
Low Sexual Desire Hurts
Relationships: Sexuality • Published: April 6, 2011
Low desire by one partner toward the other hurts. if both have low desire, then they may be content to just live like roommates with occasional contact. But when one person longs for connection and sexual pleasure and the other resists or avoids it, the emotional pain can become excruciating. This article suggests what can be done to bring back the desire, return to love, and enjoy intimacy again.
Are You Committed to Happiness?
Self Improvement: Positive Attitude • Published: April 6, 2011
Commitments are powerful. They are life transforming. When you commit to doing something, doors open and paths appear. When you commit in word and action, people appear to support you in your quest. Commitment leads to change. Decide what you are committed to and your life will change in that direction. Are you willing to make a commitment to happiness?
Post-Sex Depression - Are You Sometimes Sad After Sex?
Relationships: Sexuality • Published: April 5, 2011
Sadness, especially such deep sadness as depression, are definitely not known to increase sexual desire, arousal or satisfaction. In fact, depressed people often refrain from sexual activity. Men may find they are unable to become aroused and women may just avoid physical contact.
Believe You Can - And You Can!
Self Improvement: Self Esteem • Published: April 5, 2011
Do YOU think you can? Henry Ford once said, "If you think you can, if you think you can't, you're right!" So often we give up without even trying, just assuming that we can't do whatever it is we are attempting. Many people run from relationships when the emotional conflicts begin to emerge. They may run into someone else's arms to assuage the uncomfortable feelings because they think they can't bear it. But they can't bear those feelings because they think they can't. There are many other people who endure intensely painful periods in their relationships but know that they can and will get through it. "If you think you can, if you think you can't, you're right."
