Your Great, Big Gay Wedding - Keep Your Focus on Your (Same-Sex) Wedding Ceremony

Whoever wants to be married should be able to be married. You may not live in a state where the law supports your right to be married. You may want to move. You may want to have a destination wedding. Or you may just want to have your ceremony where you live. Whatever you do, if this is your life partner, do the paperwork to keep your choices safe. Same-sex marriage and relationship is hard enough, you must protect your decisions.

But when it comes to thinking about a wedding, let me encourage you to think first about the wedding ceremony. When you say wedding these days, people envision walking down the aisle; they smell the flowers; they hear the music. But they rarely think about what they're going to say to one another. They don't think about what kind of promises they're going to ask their community to make to them.

This isn't just true with gay weddings; straight couples have the same issues. But it matters more at same-sex weddings. Even if you get married in a place where the law does support you, unconscious discrimination can still be difficult to live with.

Remind your gathering:

• That for many years, not only could gay couples not marry, most lived very closeted lives, often fearing for the lives. Your wedding ceremony is significant because too many same-sex couples have done with out. You change history with your marriage. Someday, it will be natural and easy. But today same-sex weddings are still not common.
• That love will not be stopped by the law. Love enables us to do the most amazing things. We are braver and stronger when we love. We see more clearly and we take bigger risks. And we move, hand in hand, toward our futures.
• That couples do better when they have their communities gathered around them to celebrate and support them.
• That to promise to support one gay couple in marriage is to promise to celebrate and support all gay couples. You don't attend someone's wedding for free lunch. If your guests don't think they can support you throughout your marriage together, they need not to come.
• That every gay wedding ceremony is one more step in making marriage sacred and inclusive and that they are taking part in a historic event.

Use your same-sex wedding ceremony to transform your relationship in your own eyes and in the eyes of your community. Your marriage will be the stronger for it.

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The Rev. Ann Keeler Evans, The Wedding Priestess - "From 'I do' to happily and healthily ever after!"