When you are having a relationship with a man, there are some thoughts that you should keep to yourself, and one of those thing is your dreams and plans about marriage and family for the future with him.

You must keep it at least until you and him already made a decision to move to the next level.You need to understand that men like to do things slowly, especially when it comes to serious relationship. Men need to be fully aware, examine, understand and "control" his territory. If in the process to do so he already distracted and threatened in a nightmare situation that he can hardly manage, then he will try to defense himself.

Serious relationship means serious commitment for men. Commitment to do right things and expecting zero mistakes. Most men are afraid of commitment, not because they are afraid to be faithful, but because they hate to make wrong decisions, especially when it comes to long term relationship. The truth is that when a man found a comfort he need in a woman. He will be committed and faithful to her. He will give everything he can for her, literally!

But that comfort feeling comes from a process of knowing her and the relationship better by experiencing "life" together with her. Process is not an event. Process takes time.

That is why women should take it slow. Slowly but sure. You can un-intentionally mention about your parents, how they have raised your family and stuffs, or you can mention about your friend that get married in a relax and casual conversation. That way men will not feel threatened or intimidated and consider it as a normal conversation. And the fact is that in normal (not intimidated) condition, men will tell honestly about what they think about things like marriage, family and the future plans.

That way, after you know about his real thoughts, the rest is up to you.be