There are things that can be fun about dating. In the world today with today's standards even Christian women are having sex with men outside of marriage. Yet here in lies a dilemma. If you are giving a man all he wants, time with you, fun times out and a sexual relationship why would he feel the need to commit to a mortgage, children and a marriage? Is there a smarter way, is there an old fashioned way that is a lot more successful in finding a lasting, loyal committed relationship... or are you like the rest of the women who want to try all the tricks writers in this section come up with for you?

Did you know some of the benefits of not having sex until you are married?

Do you know you cannot catch a sexually transmitted disease off a virgin?

It may be a simple question but have you ever considered that. There are many sexually transmitted diseases out there, and many that can be passed on even through a condom although sex educators and not quick to tell you that fact.

The logic of today is that the Bible is out dated and that saving yourself as a virgin is pretty stupid and a girl needs to give away her virginity and get some good experience in bed if she is ever going to catch a guy that will want to hold onto her.

And yet the only safe way for not getting one of these sexual diseases is to be pure. But hold on, there is another good reason to keep sex to marriage.

The rate of divorce in couples is lower if you marry as a virgin.

When a guy is married as a virgin, his divorce rate is 63 percent lower than a non-virgin. For girls, it's 76 percent lower. Edward O. Laumann, et al., The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1994), 503.

Would that be a good reason to remain a virgin? If you wanted a marriage to work for you some day, do you think it would be worth the better chance of the marriage staying together by denying your partner sex till you were married?

Can you really be a lady today and have a lot of sex partners

If a guy can't commit to you unless he can have sex with you, is he the sort of guy that is going to be good to spend the other time in the day with when you are not in bed? I mean, if you cannot have fun and get on really well without having sex, what has your relationship really got going for it?

Don't get me wrong, I did not keep my virginity before I married, so I am not saying that I am a saint. But I wish that I had not had sex with the girl I married 19 years ago and therefore she would not have fallen pregnant and forced me to marry her.

Do you think it would be good to hold yourself to a higher standard? Would you be able to sort out the jerks from the nicer guys, simply by saying that you are saving yourself for your husband to be?

Sure, a guy might stop dating you really quick when you make it clear to him that he is never going to get you into bed unless you are married to him, but even a real player given that line might stop short and start to really respect you for your stance.

You might not be the coolest girl in school and the hippest girl around, but being in your mid twenties and a virgin is a very attractive thing indeed to a man that is getting ready to find himself a wife and settle down for marriage and the whole nine yards.

Let a man be attracted to who you are out of the bedroom

Many men have stunning wives and yet the wives never get to do anything for themselves nor make any decisions in the house or in the life of the couple. These wives are mere trophies that the men like to take around on their arm and have in total submission to them.

Yet a free thinking lady, a lady who will not sleep with a man until her wedding night gives a man a lot more to ponder about his lady before he is married. He may have had sex with other women and really enjoyed that, but when he is presented with you and how you feel, he has to look deeper at you and your personality and the things that are good about you, as he has not got a guarantee about how sexually fulfilling you are to him.

A marriage is a serious business to a guy who these days can lose the house, fortune and children in a divorce, and for the thinking man, it is not something that he will enter into on a whim.

By denying sex, you force the thinking man to consider all the things outside the bedroom that he likes in you. For him to stay with you, he has to like you for more reasons than just sex. If he is only into sex and is too young to want to commit to any girl you have not undressed and given your body to him in vain. Even the young guy busy spreading his oats will not easily forget that young girl that said no to him. In years to come, when he is looking for that special someone, you may find he types your name into a social networking site to see if he can find you.

I have been turned down for sex by only one girl in my life that I made out with. Her doing that forever etched her name into my mind and I have often wondered what has become of her.

If you are not a virgin now as you read this, take a sexual sabbatical from now on. Be that girl who dares to be loved enough for who she is outside of the bedroom. It will take you off the dating round about. Very soon you will see your confidence growing in your stance.

Go for gold.