The relationship has ended but you hope you and your ex can get back together. Certainly there is hope, particularly if you truly want to. First, you should take a look back at the relationship and see if it is one you really want to continue, or if you are just lonely.

A broken relationship can be a good thing, if you use it properly. You need time to heal from the pain of the breakup, and so does your partner.

It is real easy when the breakup is fresh to remember only the good times. It is important that you remember the bad stuff along with the good. Think about what caused you and your ex to part ways. Admit the part you played in causing the split. Decide if you are willing to change so that the two of you can grow together.

It is true that most relationships can be saved if the partners work on it. However, if your partner seemed unstable, or if he was abusive, the relationship was not healthy and you would be better off moving on. Without serious help, abusive relationships do not get better. The abuse escalates instead.

If you have considered all angles of the relationship and you have decided you are interested in restoring it, take a break first. Do not communicate with your ex for awhile. That means no calls, no text messages, no emails, no communication in any form. Give him time to wish the break had not happened.

All of us can improve. So use the time to improve yourself. The new you can be very attractive to your ex in the months to come. Improvement takes many forms, but one of them is appearance. During this time, do not neglect your appearance. Instead, work to become more attractive by getting a new hair style, some new clothes, maybe update your make up.

Try developing a new hobby, reconnect with old friends, get a membership at the gym and work out every day. Get reacquainted with who you are apart from your ex. Sometimes in relationships we lose a lot of our own identity, particularly if that relationship is controlled more by our partner. It is important to know who you are.

Since you are not communicating with your ex at all, you will not have opportunity to hash and rehash the relationship, or the things that brought it down. When the time is right, you can apologize for the things you did that caused the breakup. And then, leave the past back there. Do not allow your past to crowd out the present.

The relationship the two of you had is over. And if you get back together, it should be to build something new. Stop stewing about the mistakes you made in the relationship. Concentrate on learning from the mistakes instead. If the two of you can put the past behind you, there is hope for a new and beautiful future together.