It is that indefinable "something" that people have that attract others like bees to honey.

Charisma is not tangible. It is not nameable. It cannot be easily defined.

It is that extra "oomph" that some people have.

People mistakenly think that you either have it or you don't. This isn't necessarily true. It is not completely unattainable. You don't have to be born with it, although some people are.

Charisma is a presence, an energy that everyone around notices and wants to be part of. When a charismatic person walks into a room everyone looks and is naturally drawn to this person.

But it is not a secret. Believe it or not, the underlying characteristic of charisma is self confidence.

You can develop or improve your charisma by working on your self confidence. Psychologists say that having a belief in your worth and your value to others improves your self confidence enormously.

You may be wondering how to go about this process. Well, the first step is to focus on becoming the best person you can be physically, emotionally and mentally. You can start with the easiest part: physically. Make sure you are eating properly to start. That means healthy, small portions of food. Cut out all the junk food and sodas. Incorporate whole grains and vegetables into your diet as much as possible and cut down on the alcohol intake.

Almost anything is fine in moderation.

The next step is to move. That means anything from an organized exercise class to parking your car father away from the store than usual to taking the stairs instead of the elevator. Anything to move your body will help. If you are slightly overweight, work on eating better and moving more and eventually the weight should come off. If you are a lot overweight, you might consider more serious steps after checking with your physician.

Eat right, move your body and then dress neatly and have impeccable hygiene. Don't be a slob. You don't have to be a fashion plate but make everything you wear as neat and clean as possible. Keep your body that way, too. Brush your teeth and shower regularly.

Emotionally and mentally improve yourself by learning what makes you happy and pursuing outside interests and activities of these types. If you like chess, join a chess club. If you like Frisbee tag, look online for people with other interests. The point is to develop interests and hobbies to make you more interesting and as a result you will meet other people and develop self esteem as a side effect.

Also cut all negativity out of your life. If you have someone in your life who brings you down, don't spend time with them. If it is someone you must have in your life, i.e., a parent or boss, read up on techniques of verbal defense so you know how to defend yourself against these types of psychological attacks.

There are many other ways to improve yourself that you can work on and as a result, your self esteem will soar and your charisma levels will rise.