Do you ever wonder why people interpret things so differently from you? Or why you can say something in simple terms and the person you're speaking to may not understand? Have you wondered why some people end up as victims and others don't? If so, you will love this simple yet amazing information that explains it all...and a lot of other things you've wondered about as well!

Although body language, self-esteem and confidence play a vital role in staying safe from verbal, mental, emotional and physical attack, personality styles have a lot to do with who is most comfortable exhibiting confident body language or having confidence in certain situations.

Four Personality Styles

1. Analytical
2. Amiable
3. Driver
4. Expressive

We each have one dominant and one secondary personality style. As we grow through life experiences and put into situations, we are forced to develop some characteristics of the other two styles just to get along, keep our job or excel in school, for example.

As you read the styles below, remember we are a "blend" of the styles and all have strengths and weaknesses. Also, life has forced us to soften some of these characteristics. Also, our personality styles change between business and relationships. That's why someone can be a barracuda at work and submissive at home or vice-versa. That is a whole other (and very interesting) topic!

Analytical - the analytical person wants details. They read every word of the fine print when signing a contract. They want time to think before deciding because being wrong is way out of their comfort zone. They are meticulous, critical and careful. Analytical people are far less likely to be attacked for being careless.

Amiable - the amiable person wants to be everybody's friend. They are comfortable being a quiet team player but not the boss. This is the friend who always tells you what you want to hear, whether it's right or wrong. Amiable people never want to offend anyone, therefore they are prime targets for all types of attacks, which include being take advantage of.

Driver - the driver person is convinced they can do everything better than everyone else and usually can. They get things done, no matter what, have little need for friends and are often unpopular for bulldozing others without noticing. Drivers are so focused and let very little distract them, which makes them scary to attackers who are weak, insecure individuals. They are not likely to be victims.

Expressive - the expressive jumps in with both feet and very little thought. They are the life of the party, always center stage and hate to be alone. They have no problem making decisions with little to go on because they know they can always change their mind and make a new decision. Because expressives jump in without checking things out and automatically think everyone is safe, they are prime targets for all four types of attack.

What are your primary and secondary personality styles? I am an expressive-driver. I have been forced to develop analytical characteristics to run a business and amiable characteristics in order to relate to amiable people since they are often my clients.