Facing a breakup is often devastating. You may feel like you are walking through the haze of a dream as you try to take on each day. You hope your ex will realize the mistake they've made and come crawling back. Instead of spending your time waiting for some enlightenment to settle in your ex's mind, you should figure out ways of winning your ex back, and build a plan of action. Give them space, yes, but don't let them slip too far away.

First you need a no contact phase. This allows you both to take a time-out and reflect on what has happened. If your ex is trying to contact you, it is likely they want to reconcile, but you must overcome the urge to allow contact for awhile. If they aren't calling you, it may be as difficult for you to keep from breaking this rule, but realize winning your ex back will take time, and they may just need a little space right now. Have the patience and endure the pain for the greater goal.

Next, when there are occasions to speak, it should be pleasant. Do not pressure them in any way nor reveal any feelings of loss and fear. Any negativity during brief opportunities of contact will only serve to push them away, destroying the likelihood of reconciliation. Avoid topics which may cause a fight or hard feelings. Every contact right now should be positive in order to set the stage for winning your ex back. Stay calm, cool, and collected.

Malicious words and actions will not do anything positive. Being hateful, deceitful, or otherwise nasty will backfire. You will likely lose the object of your love forever. Do not use tactics to create jealousy. Winning your ex back through jealousy will only recreate a relationship on a shaky foundation which will again crumble.

If you want to win your ex's admiration and respect, you must be admirable and respectful.