Both of you are now separated and your ex has decided to patch up with another partner, but you desire to win your ex back. Well, it can be done and cleanly too without the new partner of your ex feeling hurt.

There is even a good chance that your ex's purpose of getting a new partner is to make you feel jealous and make you want to have him/her back. It can as well be that your ex still love you so much that he was only trying to escape thinking of you hence his/her being with another partner.

First of all you have to start with yourself, look into your self and try to think through what you have done wrong that brought the end to your relationship with your ex. Be sincere, be honest and be willing and ready for transformation.

It is now time to for you to make the needed changes in yourself. Learn all those good qualities that makes a complete person that are lacking in you and try to take them up and generally improve your lot both emotionally and physically.

Do you lack good human relationship? Then develop it. You don't know how to cook? Learn. You lack good sense of dressing? Learn about that too. Everything your ex had ever complained about in you, try to change them.

You don't stop there; there is still something else to do. Get to know your ex's new partner, try to observe him/her for sometimes check out who he/she is, find out about the person's good qualities and grey areas.

Learn from the person. Imbibe the good qualities and shun the bad ones. You can get information through his/her friends (do it subtly, you don't want to raise any suspicion.)

And after all these obvious changes your ex still sticks to his/her gun. Then probably you too aren't meant to be together anyway. It may be it is time to let go.