Where Are You Going?

Having a destination is the absolute secret to all self development, it is impossible to arrive somewhere if you have no idea where you are going.

Many people I work with THINK that they have a destination or goal, but on closer investigation, it is a very flexible arrangement and not at all clear.

Over the years teaching this stuff I find that most people don't have goals because they think that they are unachievable. A lot of teachings say it does not matter what your goal is however large or outrageous just focus on it and you will achieve it. I think this is where most people collapse and wander off. Whatever your goal, unless you have total faith and belief in achieving it, you will not make it. That is a fact and I say that as soon as any doubt creeps in, you actually activate the stop button and all the momentum ceases until you put your mind back on track. How far back you go is entirely dependent on how long you harbour the doubts.Remember that these doubts are of your making and do not actually exist at this point.

How do we combat this problem? Well I like to get people to create a goal that is a stretch but not something that will seem impossible. You must have faith and belief in achieving it, but it must be something that is really stretching your belief and faith. Whatever it is you must now start feeling that it is happening, and enjoy the benefits now as to what your goal will give you. For example if your goal is to increase your business turnover by 50%, you should start imagining what you will do with the extra income and start acting as if the goal is reached. Start treating yourself to little extras that you envisage having, feeling is such an important part to achieving your goals. If you do not feel good about yourself, you can only rise to the level you are thinking. Once you start feeling better, that gives you more confidence and the whole scenario starts lifting you to the next level.

By bringing your goals closer and achieving them quicker, you will see that the world is in perfect order and provided that you follow the guidelines, you can really achieve anything that you desire. You will notice I said desire, that is because want is not a strong enough emotion to drive a goal. A desire is something that you will do more to achieve than a simple want, a want is neither here or there and has no passion or energy attached to it. You must desire your goal, as that is the focus mechanism. As you see your short term goals happening with regularity, just by following these simple rules, you can then start focusing on more long term visions. It will be the knowledge that the universe delivered on your short term goals that will give you the faith and belief to go for the biggy.

When you actually start preparing your long term vision, you will have lots of voices and limiting beliefs popping up to give you guidance and information, most of this internal advice from the past will be there specifically to derail you. That is not what the people who programmed you meant to do, because they gave you the advice to help you, by teaching you to believe that you would amount to nothing and not expect anything, and then you would not be disappointed. You have to ignore these demons. You will actually have conquered a few by getting your earlier results, and each time you prove them wrong, you must firmly clear that particular piece, of incorrect information, out.

A great thing that we also do when we plan our goal is to start imagining what MIGHT or COULD happen along our journey. How clever is that, as if life is not complex enough, we now want to start solving problems that at this point in time, do not even exist. Our fertile mind, then adds other imagined problems, that arise out of the imagined solution, to a problem, that did not exist in the first place. No wonder we get headaches.

I call this state of mind circular thought, because as in a circle, it has no beginning and has no end. You cannot possibly solve a problem that does not actually exist. So to help you combat this problem, I will make a statement that you can bank on. When a real situation arises, you will be equipped to deal with it, and because it is a real situation you will be able to solve it. I have heard so many stories, where people have overcome adversity, or got superhuman strength and many other amazing things, and when asked how they coped they all say they do not know where the solution came from it just seemed to happen.

That shows you that when something exists you can cope with it, so why do we insist on inventing hurdles and problems to prevent us from achieving our goals. Just set your vision and know that what ever happens, you will get the ability to solve anything that transpires once it is real.

About this Author

Croz has been coaching and mentoring young entrepreneurs for many years. He talks regularly to groups and individuals, spreading his valuable message in an entertaining and humorous way. His website is http://www.croz.com.au

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