The flame has gone out from your marriage or so it seems. He doesn't love you anymore. But you are still in love with him. What can you do to change your husband's mind?

Sometimes when you live with someone for a long time it is easy to begin to take one another for granted. Does your husband know how much you still appreciate him? Have you thanked him lately for all the small things that make a larger relationship work? Did you thank him for carting off the junk from the garage? Get creative. Throw your husband, a 'spouse appreciation day.' go all out. Make him feel special on an otherwise uneventful day. He will be pleased that you remember the small, mundane things he does, that he didn't think you really noticed!

Show your admiration for him. Is the poor guy completely ignored at work? Make him his favorite dinner as a thank-you for all the effort he puts in to taking care of you. He will be surprised that you noticed after all this time, his important contributions to the relationship. And he will love you for it!

Everyone needs to feel special. And this probably goes double for a spouse. A marriage can become so routine, that some of the things he does by now are by rote. Let him know how great you think he is for taking out the garbage or walking the dog. After all, this is the most important man in your life, right? Let him know that you notice and that you are glad to have such a great person in your life!

You may think that this is a little silly. And to a degree it is. After all, when was the last time he thanked you for a special dinner. Every romance needs a little humor. At the very least, you two may laugh at your efforts. He will begin to see that you do appreciate him and think highly of him. These things are very important in long term relationships.

He may not reciprocate your efforts in the beginning and may even act more sullen. Your efforts to show your appreciation may take time. That is ok. The fact that you are making the effort is important! In a short amount of time, he will begin to take notice and begin to recognize the loving, affectionate person he fell in love with, you!