Has your boyfriend recently told you that he has cheated on you and you are asking yourself "What should I do if my boyfriend is having an affair?" Well the truth is that you and your boyfriend hold the keys to what is going to happen next in your relationship. If you are not in love, then it may be best to go your separate ways. But if you both still love each other, then there is hope for the both of you. What you both need is a way to address the cheating and rekindle the love and passion that was once there.

The good news is that it is a proven fact that couples who are able to develop the communication skills needed to address problems within the relationship, will build stronger relationships that can last to the end of time. Simply stay committed to each other and work together to identify and resolve your issues.

The affair in itself is not really the heart of the problem. Couples need to look at cheating as an action or effect. It is not the cause. For example, a normal man (in a serious relationship) is not going to go out looking to cheat because he has a desire to. There is an underlying reason that he feels he needs to cheat on his girlfriend. The cause in this case could be that his girlfriend is withholding sex for certain reasons. Or maybe she has let herself go because she has become comfortable with the relationship. These are just a few reasons that a man might find himself cheating on his girlfriend.

But you are here wondering "what should I do if my boyfriend is having an affair?" So here are a few things that you and your boyfriend can do to start the healing process if you both want to restore your relationship.

• Sit down together and communicate with each other. You and your boyfriend need to work together to find the cause or reason that the affair happened. Both of you will want this to be a one time event that neither of you will want to have to address again.

• Forgive your boyfriend. If your boyfriend is truly sorry for cheating, then you need to take the high road and forgive him. Let him know that your trust will need to be earned back over a period of time. But forgiving him will help the healing process progress.

• Rediscover your love for each other. Remember that you both once were madly in love at one time and you can get that passion back if you both work at it. Go out and have fun together. Do the things that you both once did when you both started dating.

I hope that I have been able to help you answer your question "What should I do if my boyfriend is having an affair. Remember that you both can build a beautiful relationship if you are both willing to sacrifice your time and energy for each other.