Jesus says, "Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder." Matthew 19:6 (KJV)

I recently found myself asking this question and in need of some serious help. It's so easy to get caught up doing the everyday things that are required to run a household - work, housework, church, visiting with family - those things are important, but they often get in the way of maintaining a marriage. I looked up one day and although we were in the same room, emotionally we were so far apart that it didn't seem like we could ever reconnect. We both work different schedules and some days things were so hectic, we may have only brief exchanges before one of us is out the door. It's strange how this happens, one minute we are fine, and then the next, it feels like neither of us can find comfort in the other.

Then as I watch television and read, it seems as if no one is happy in their marriage. People are always marrying and then splitting up seemingly the next day. So what's happening is not just at my house, but all over. It seems to me, that marriage in general is constantly under attack. Either you have people who completely don't even believe in getting married, or you have people who get married and talk about nothing but being miserable. This seems to fuel more people remaining unmarried, more people getting divorced and just a complete breakdown of families in general. It seems that every thing comes up against marriage - from finances to friends, there's always something working against marriage. I often find myself wondering why?

Marriage is the center of the family, and is the most intimate relationship anyone will ever have once they leave their mother and/or father. It is because it is the area that allows a person to truly express selflessness and yet at the same time receive love in abundance. Marriage is the place where compassion and passion are bred. Therefore when it is under attack, it causes everyone involved including children, relatives and even friends to call love into question. People will begin to ask themselves if love doesn't exist in marriage, then it must not exist at all.

But love does exist in marriage. Even divorced people still love their ex's. Some are even bold enough to admit it, but when you ask why they got divorced, they'll say something like "love just isn't enough." But I tell you, it is more than enough. Why? Because Jesus is love. Those who say love isn't enough, is saying that Jesus isn't enough - and that just isn't so. If there is love in your heart for your spouse, then there is hope for your marriage.

I found myself in need of a serious overhaul in my relationship, and I thank God for sending Save Your Christian Marriage by Dr. Lee H. Baucom, it was right on time. The first few pages immediately relieved the anxiety I was feeling over the thought of potentially losing touch with my husband. This book even revealed 5 things to avoid doing when you're trying to save your marriage. I was planning on doing two of them, but thank God I had a chance to read this first.

Working on marriage takes time, but after I read this book, it opened my eyes to some of the mistakes I was making, and within a few days, I was able to have a good, honest conversation with my husband, that he later thanked me for. Had I continued handling things the way I was accustomed to, perhaps we would still be drifting ever further apart.

Even if both of you aren't Christians, there is hope. This book will show you how just one can be Christian enough for both as Paul encourages in the following passages:

"And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband..." 1 Corinthians 7:10-14 (KJV)