Do you lie awake at night pondering the eternal question of what it is that will make a man fall in love? Do you feel that, whatever it is, every other girl on the planet has got it? And do you worry that you'd never have it, even if you knew what it was? If that sounds like you, it's time to put your worries behind you. You've definitely got it, even if you don't know it, and this article will show you how to use it. If there's someone you've been yearning for, then it's time to learn how to make a man fall in love.

First, let's deal with the misconceptions. Sometimes you'll hear men say they've been in love lots of times. That may be true, of course, but it's more likely that they've been in lust lots of times and have confused the two. Physical attraction is definitely not love, however much we'd like it to be. If it was, all you'd have to do to make a man fall in love is put on a slinky number and wiggle the requisite body parts.

Real love, of the sort that lasts when the hormones inevitably die down, requires a little more effort - just like anything else worth having in life.

First of all, you need to work on yourself. Men are looking for someone they can spend their life with (just like girls!), and you need to present yourself as that person. That means having a life of your own, with independent interests and opinions and activities. Would you want to spend your life with someone who was entirely dependent on you for everything, after all?

Secondly, you need to be able to stir his emotions. You want him to feel good just by being around you. So be his friend, take an interest in what he thinks and what he does, let him know that you support him and be a ready and sympathetic listener. If you can associate yourself with good times and feelings, so much the better. If your man is a theme park nut, for instance, enjoy a few days at the theme park with him. Every time he thinks about rollercoasters, he'll think about you - in a good way!

Thirdly, you just have to accept the fact that when it comes to love, women are sprinters and men are marathon runners. They go much, much slower than girls do, and you have to adjust yourself to their pace. Trying to hurry them up will just send them running in the opposite direction - that's when they turn into sprinters.

Finally, the most important thing you should have is the ability to relax and enjoy your developing relationship. It's something you should enjoy, after all, otherwise why do it? Paradoxical as it may seem, the more you're able to relax and let go, the more easily you can make a man fall in love.