A lot of guys suffering from approach anxiety can directly attribute this innate fear to their uncertainty regarding what to say to women in the first place. If these guys would just have some sort of back-up plan in which they only approach women that they are genuinely interested in as a person, they would be able to alleviate a certain amount of that approach anxiety forever.

The reason that this approach would work for them is because that kind of honest and direct opener, or opening remark to a woman would come across as being fresh and truthful to the girl that the guy is opening. But you have to have a true genuine interest in her to begin with, or this approach will not work.

Concerning the honest and direct approach when you begin a conversation with a hot woman you've never met before, your main problem in expressing genuine attraction for her is by not specifying the EXACT reason you find her cute in the first place.

Just going up to a girl and saying "I think you're cute and would like to get to know you better" is such a generic statement to a woman that it totally sounds like a pickup line with nothing to back it up at all.

It's no wonder you failed to connect with this girl if that's the exact opener you used. What you should have done is first examined her body language and facial expressions to determine what kind of mood she was in.

Then you should have found at least one thing that is unique about her appearance, such as an interesting ring, tattoo or bracelet that you could either compliment her on or busted her a little bit on to get that tension going early.

Keep in mind that these observations have to be done by you extremely fast to avoid any "Stalker look" that she might misinterpret coming from your direction.

TIME HOW LONG IT TAKES FOR YOU TO FIND SOMETHING UNIQUE ABOUT HER

I am constantly looking at women and trying to time the seconds it takes for me to decipher what makes this girl unique and how I can use that uniqueness to my benefit upon my initial opener/approach. I have gotten this technique down to within about 30 seconds, and I recommend this technique to everybody that really wants to become a true seducer.

When your mind starts analyzing specific reasons to talk to a woman, the logical part of your brain will ease and calm your insecurities on a gut level, thus eliminating a major part of your approach anxiety problems.

Think about it for a second. If you saw a building that was on fire, what would you do? Of course you would call 911 on your cell phone because it is such an obvious step to take. Your mind tells you to do this and you will not have any doubts about this measure to take.

The same thing will happen when you spot a woman and have a true and genuine desire to tell her something about herself that your brain is telling you that you have to get off your chest. Once you start doing this with every hot woman you see, your calm manner will rise in you and your approach anxiety will begin to fade away.