Emotionally exhausted is how many women feel when they are in love with a man who won't commit. It almost feels as though you've being taken hostage emotionally when you find the man you believe should be your life partner, but he's too afraid of anything beyond casual dating. When a woman is in this position she often feels torn between staying with the man she adores or ending the relationship so she can search for someone who sees the value in a more serious, tangible connection. If a woman like this can understand the driving force behind men's fear of commitment, she can than start on a path to gently persuade him to open up and see how wonderful it is to take the relationship to the next level.

One underlying reason for many men's fear of commitment is the belief that once they agree to a more serious relationship they'll have to sacrifice too much of their own lives. At first glance this seems selfish to most women but for a man who has lived the majority of his life focused on himself, it's completely understandable. Much of this fear stems from the fact that many married men like to complain about how much of their time is now devoted to their wife and family. Household duties take precedence and single men see that as a step in the wrong direction. Without being completely obvious you need to send the message to your man that you don't want to monopolize all his time. The best way to do this is to keep yourself busy. Don't give up anything in your own life to accommodate him. If he sees that you're just as interested in your own life as he is, he'll be much more open to the idea of committing.

Some male commitment fears come from the misunderstanding that their finances will have to change dramatically because their relationship status has. Keep yourself financially independent from your man. Show him that you are more than capable of taking care of your own financial needs and that you don't have to turn to him for help. If he feels that you two are on equal footing in money matters, he'll feel less cornered and much more open to committing.

There are specific things that any woman can say and do that will make her man want to commit to her. If you believe that he is the man you are destined to be with there are things you can do right now that will make him feel exactly the same way about you.