Unconditional Love is equal to unchangeable love. Unchangeable meaning that it does not waver or differ depending on the situation, mood or emotion. If we want to know how to love unconditionally, we need to stop basing our sense of love on our ideas and actions. Ideas come and go, our efforts come and go, and our emotions come and go too. Therefore they all belong to the changing expressions of our being. In other words: They are completely unreliable! Something so profound and unchanging as unconditional love, must be there to rely on at all times!

Could it be that by the very act of trying to cultivate love, we are missing the obvious? Could it be that all our ideas about love and our actions to bring about that idea or experience of love are inherently false, no matter how virtuous they seem? Can we discover something incredibly more vast and stable than our fleeting ideas and efforts and base our sense of love on the recognition of that unchangeable presence rather than our intellectual notion of love? - I say we can!

Discovering Unconditional Love in your direct experience:

This may sound a little 'out there,' but give it a chance: Have you ever considered the actual spaciousness in which everything is enabled to exist? Can something exist without a spaciousness for that something to exist in and be known by? Planets and basically all things that have a form, need 'space' in order to exist in...

Now if we bring that analogy closer to our personal experience, we can ask ourselves: What is it that enables our thoughts and emotions to appear and to be known? What is this spacious awareness by which all our perceptions are known? The changeable always needs something unchangeable to exist in. Similarly all that moves, can only be enabled to move if there is something unmovable for it to move in! Discovering this as an actual experience is the discovery of the stable ground of being.

It is my direct and most intimate experience that this unchangeable space, in which all that we perceive about ourselves exists, is Unconditional Love itself!

True love does not depend on any of our thoughts, emotions or actions in order for it to be present. It just is, whether we think, don't think, try to be or don't try to be, it lies here at the core of every single experience we have. It is the unchangeable awareness by which all motions and change is known.

How to Love Unconditionally? - 3 Points to consider:

1) First of all: Forget about all techniques that you ever learned on how to love! There is no 'how to' when it comes to true love. You cannot love unconditionally in 'a certain kind of way' or by doing such and such. All cultivated love is bound to be conditioned by the limits of our ideas about it. That's right! The very fact that we are trying to love unconditionally means we are creating conditions for a false sense of love to be bound by.

2) Just relax as you are! Love is what's always present as what's looking (Awareness itself) even in the face of anger and hatred. It is love/awareness itself that is the ground for hatred to arise, endure and dissolve in. Love is our natural condition from which all that we know is being expressed. If we try to find or create unconditional love, we are acting like a pair of eyes looking for themselves in the forms that they perceive. It's just a no-win endeavor.

3) Throughout your every-day experiences, just stop repeatedly for a moment and acknowledge the presence of space in the heat of that moment. Recognize that even though there are ideas and emotions appearing, there is a spaciousness for them to appear in and for them to be known by. Notice how this aware 'space' itself is not affected by whatever happens within it. Like a mirror remains unaffected by whatever appears within it.

Conclusion:

Just relax and be at ease as you are and you will find that there dawns an increasingly natural expression of unconditional love that will fulfill you beyond measure. If you are at ease as the spacious awareness that you are, and if you recognize this awareness to be the case throughout all changing perceptions, just like your eyes are the constant factor in every visual perception, you will find that love is the inevitable expression of who you are. It's our natural condition beyond our thoughts and emotions. It is the ground for all personalizations to arise in and dissolve back into. Rest as that ground and emphasize that changeless 'space' rather than emphasizing the stories and descriptions of your ideas and emotions.

The latter are simply unreliable appearances that come and go as they please. Even though they may try to tell you many things about love or life in general, they hold no significance in themselves and we do not have to hold on to them or think too much of them.

Rather: It is that alertness, that clarity of looking, that presence of awareness which you can notice right now if you relax your focus for just a moment, that turns out to be the self-aware condition of perfect love. It's there as that stable awareness which knows both happy thoughts, sad thoughts as well as the state of no-thoughts. Rest as the changeless ease which contains all opposites and is in itself without opposite, and you will discover unconditional love to be an ever-present natural condition for you to rely on at all times. Relaxing as the open nature of the mind repeatedly is enough to make you embody perfect love in every way towards yourself, your partner and everyone else. This is Love beyond conditions, though not without control.