Breaking up with your partner is tough to say the least, especially if you shared a strong connection with each other. The feelings of happiness and joy you experienced at the start of your relationship have turned into grief, sadness, frustration and anger. However, all is not lost. If you are reading this article you are probably searching for a way to get back together with your ex as quickly as possible. The 3 most effective strategies that will get your relationship on the right track again are outlined below. Although they are only a part of a complete plan, they will give you a substantial head start for getting your relationship a fresh start.

* Firstly, you need to take a step back and give yourself some time to allow the emotions you associated with the break up to subside. Break ups create a highly emotionally-charged atmosphere and you don't want to run the risk of doing or saying something to your ex that you may regret in the future. This is true especially in the initial stages of the break up. Removing yourself emotionally will allow you to start thinking logically about the ways in which to get back together with your ex.

* You need to minimize contact with your ex as much as possible. However, you must try to strike a balance between totally ignoring your ex and desperately trying to initiate contact with him or her. For example, you need to avoid calling them, leaving voice mail messages, sending gifts, text-messaging, e-mailing, etc. On the other hand, if you do see or hear from them, you need to be civil and well-mannered. If you handle this step correctly, your ex will start to think of you as a mature and independent as opposed to a desperate and clingy individual who is looking for attention.

* Once you resume contact with your ex, your first priority should be to take things slowly and make your ex feel relaxed in your company. Go out for coffee or a quick lunch together. Keep the atmosphere fun and light. DO NOT discuss your relationship or the possibility of getting back together. Remember, at this stage you just want to get back in your ex's life again, even as a friend. This will give you a solid foundation for carrying out the rest of your plan.