If you want to fix an unhappy marriage then the first thing you have to do is admit to yourself and your spouse that your marriage is having problems. After you both have admitted that your marriage has problems you can then start talking about the actions you are going to take to fix it.

The first step you need to take in order to fix an unhappy marriage is to communicate. Communication is probably the reason your marriage is in the bad shape it's in right now. You should keep talking to each other about your problems and try to reach a common understanding.

You shouldn't shut yourself up because you need to let your emotions out or else your marriage won't get any better than what it is now. Taking the time to communicate about your problems will help the both of you rebuild your marriage into a happy one.

The next step you need to take is apologize. It is important to apologize to your partner if you know that you have made a mistake. Some married couples don't apologize to each other because they feel like it will make them small. However, apologizing will show your partner that you know you were wrong and you will try to make sure that the same thing won't occur again in the future.

The next thing you need to do is avoid any heated arguments. If you feel that you and your partner have an argument that is about to become heated then you should try to keep your cool and avoid the argument. A heated argument will not help the repair of your marriage because people usually say things they don't mean when they're mad. Avoiding heated arguments will keep your marriage stable and keep you from saying those things you will regret later.

Finally, you are going to have to sit down and find solutions to the problems in your marriage. Both you and your partner should have peaceful discussions to analyze the issue and resolve them.