The arguments are over. Yet the worst has happened, your husband is gone. He left in a whirlwind of angry words and emotions. You may feel devastated at this new turn of events. Is there any chance of getting him back? There is hope. Your life is changing and right now you need to take care of yourself. There are no easy answers right now. Your life is complicated. Believe it or not you are going to be fine, maybe better than ever! You can get your husband back!

Yes. You miss him. You must stop all contact, right now, today, this moment. Of course, this runs counter to what you want to do. You may feel so desperate, you just want to hear his voice, even if he does yell at you. Take a step back. Breathe. Now is the time for rational thinking over rash action. Your spouse will be shocked at your sudden silence.

The key is finding the means to occupy your thoughts in anything but your spouse. Start taking early morning (or evening) strolls. Walk your frustrations out. While you are walking let your mind unravel. Your thoughts will start to bounce in new directions about what you can begin to do differently for yourself and your spouse.

Move yourself in positive directions. You may feel so down that you don't feel like doing anything at all. You may have to force yourself to start working on this new path. Direct your thoughts toward what you can do for yourself. Be selfish, for a change! Your whole world does not (and should never have) revolve around him! Take this opportunity to cultivate your interests. Visit a local museum. Catch up on your reading! Treat yourself to the latest (inexpensive) home spa treatments! Take a yoga class. Try a new hairstyle. Your spouse will be surprised (and probably saddened) that you have found interests beyond him. He will also appreciate the efforts you are taking to look and feel more attractive.

Re-connect with old friends. Find new ones. Call people you haven't heard from in a while and catch up on their lives. Occupying your mind with the activities of other people will definitely keep you busy and your thoughts away from your husband. He will be shocked that you are trying new things and attempting to move on without him! Your husband will be curious about how and why you have allowed yourself to cultivate new interests despite his leaving! He will re-discover the most important thing in his life, suddenly gone missing, is you!