Are you newly divorced, widowed or single? Thinking of diving (or wading) back into dating? What used to feel like a pool can now feel like an ocean, leaving you feeling out of the loop. Instead of throwing in the towel by settling for a fixed Saturday night date with your favorite hunks--Ben&Jerry's or a solitary dinner, here's a powerful way to take charge and transform your love life from fizzling to sizzling!

As a savvy Boomer you should be objective. How will you start dating or find a partner if you don't get back in the pool--on or offline? Don't waste time swimming in circles!

I have been in the dating pool myself and have helped countless Baby Boomers start dating again successfully after divorce, the loss of a partner or years of solitude. So I understand it can be pretty intimidating, especially if all you have heard are disaster stories, one after the other.

Avoid (or lessen) the cold water shock and the struggle so many Baby Boomers, like yourself, are experiencing when it comes to testing the dating waters again. Taking the time to prepare yourself before taking that dive or dipping your toes in the pool will make a huge difference in your dating experience.

Now grab a pen and some paper. Jot down the vital point I am about to reveal. It will literally determine if your love life sinks or swims.

Savvy Baby Boomers get help.

If you want to start enjoying a great dating life and get concrete results, you should invest in yourself and get help. Especially if your love life is in a rut. Get a like-minded, positive friend to help you.

If you are looking for quicker results and are willing to invest in yourself, then a mentor or coach can help you move a head leaps and bounds. Your success rate skyrockets when you do so.

Here are the benefits of having a great mentor or coach:

* Getting crystal clear about what you want and what you do not want.

* Overcoming obstacles that stand in the way of you having a successful love life.

* Putting together an action plan based on your comfort zone.

* Inspiring you, keeping you on track and giving you support when you need it.

* Providing wisdom to get the best out of your experience and avoid pitfalls.

So what if you are not ready to invest in a mentor or coach? No worries! Here is what you can do to start taking charge of your love life today. Use that pen and paper I asked you to grab and take 15 minutes to answer the following questions:

1. What do I want my life to look like? This is a great question to ask yourself when you are not quite sure what you want. It should be easier to describe what you want your life to look like. For example: I want to have a few romantic dates each week. I want to share my love for theatre with my new partner.

2. How do I want to be treated by my date or new partner? How do I want to feel about my new lifestyle or relationship? When you know how you want to feel, you are unlikely to settle for treatment that is not what you want. For example: I feel safe, loved and respected in my new relationship.

3. What challenges are keeping me back? Knowing what your challenges are will help you see clearly and take the action steps needed to get your love life back on track.

This exercise has saved clients I have worked with from wasting precious time with incompatible people, time-wasters and bad dates. Following these two points will greatly increase your chances of finding a great date or wonderful new partner in less time.