Have you ever wondered why sometimes when you talk to a woman you have the right intentions, but the banter doesn't go as smoothly as you would like it to?

Does this cause you to be less of "who you are," in the future with the same type of woman because you think that you're doing something wrong?

Are you trying to be genuine or are you being genuine?

There's a big difference between trying and being when you attract a girl

Trying is defined as: "To test the effect or result of."

Whereas being is defined as: "Of substance or nature and having a conscious and mortal existence".

Do you see the difference?

One is stating that you are trying to be something that you are currently not.

The other knows that it is in your nature that you are a genuine person therefore you are not trying to get her to like you, you are screening her to see whether she is the type of woman YOU want to be/have fun with.

Some of the common issues which revolve around trying in order to attract a girl are:

1. De-motivation to approach women you fancy

2. Decrease in Self-Esteem.

3. Less confidence

And how do these 3 relate? Because you allow yourself to believe that you did something 'wrong' in the interaction which lead her to blow you out, then you will most likely fall into one of those 3 categories, if not all of them.

It's easy to just blame yourself isn't it?

OR would you not rather see it as an experience? The woman basically told you she's not the type of person you're interested in!

So persistence is the highest card on this table. You need to keep moving forward and allow yourself to BE rather than try to achieve or perform when you're out to attract a girl.

Let everything come naturally, and don't force yourself to do something if you don't feel it as a natural desire. It's not a game, it's an art.

So paint gracefully.