It might seem easy for me to tell you that you must stop dwelling on getting your ex boyfriend back. But that is exactly what I am going to tell you must be done. Perhaps nothing is more emotionally upsetting than the breaking up of a relationship that you thought was happy and would stand the test of time. But your ex has just informed you that he wants to take a break for awhile and here you sit wondering what happened. Your heart tells you to go after him and demand that he explains himself. Does he have another girlfriend? Has he been cheating on you? All these things run through your mind and the more you think, the more confused and angry you become.

This is when you need to ask someone to tie you down so you will not be chasing your ex. The best thing you can do right now is stay away from him. Any contact between the two of you will only result in more accusations and deeper hurt that might mean the end of any chance of getting your ex boyfriend back. So find a comfortable chair and sit. You have some thinking to do. First you have to face the truth of why your boyfriend left you. This is where your first big problem will arise. Your ego will make it hard for you to admit that something you did or some personal trait you have drove your boyfriend away. But you must face it and figure out a way to overcome the problem so it will never arise again.

This will take some deep soul searching and honesty on your part, but it will be worth it if it leads to getting your ex boyfriend back. Once you feel you have dug out all the problems and come up with a way to give them a decent burial it will be time to face the second big problem to getting your ex back. That is the fear of rejection. You have already been rejected by your ex once and being rejected again could be hard to take, but if you want him back you have to take the chance. You should call your ex and try to set up a meeting for coffee or some place where you can talk. When you meet him be sincere and tell him what you have been doing. How you realize what caused the breakup and how you intend to fix it. The rest will be up to him. If he loves you enough he will be willing to give it another try and you will be getting your ex boyfriend back.