Let me ask you a simple question. What is the number one wish we stutterers have in common? FLUENCY... right? Well, yes it is... maybe on the first sight! But when you go DEEPER and question yourself in detail you will probably realize that we want fluency because of one core reason:
We think achieved fluency will BRING US all the POSITIVE EMOTIONS and DRIVE US AWAY from all the NEGATIVE EMOTIONS which we do experience due to our stuttering challenge
When you look at it, it is that SIMPLE.
We want to reach fluency because we do NOT want to feel the negative emotions stuttering brings us such as: Low self-esteem, Frustration, Fear, Shame, Anger, Humiliation, Isolation, Unhappiness, Inadequacy, Stress, Uncertainty, Unworthiness, Guilt, Lack of confidence, etc...
...and we want fluency because we want the opposite of all those negative emotions.
Now, the question is: Is it possible to experience those positive emotions with your speech if you don't achieve fluency in your speech?
The answer is, YES and NO.
NO, because it is extremely hard to get rid of all those emotions while you keep the stuttering mindset and you are NOT IN CONTROL of your speech at all. It is almost impossible to make that change and reverse the impact of that subconscious pain. You might not like what I am going to say here but I personally don't believe the idea of "Go live your life as an out of control stammerer and you'll get used to it and everything will change to bring you what you want out of your life". That is just not realistic and as harsh as it may sound that is a statement which will probably never happen.
Now, the answer of the above question is also YES, because you don't need 100% fluency to achieve and experience all the positive emotions we mentioned above. As long as your life is not HIJACKED by your stuttering and you are in control of it both physically and mentally then there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to achieve anything which you believe you could only achieve if you were a "fluent" speaker.
In order to reach your core speaking goals, even with not perfect fluency, you need to get your inner and outer game tight. I'll talk about "The game of fluency" in another article but in summary inner game is your mindset, beliefs, personality characteristics and the way you approach the challenge where outer game is mental and physical techniques, tools, strategies, etc. you use to take control of your speech.
Of course you need to aim for complete fluency, but keep in mind that when it comes to stuttering, considering our core goal, we definitely do NOT need "perfect" fluency to achieve our speaking and life goals. Reaching a level of fluency in conjunction with the right MINDSET will bring you what you really need to live a confident, successful and fulfilled life.
If you can get your inner and outer game tight, even if you don't reach "PERFECT" fluency, you can achieve all your speaking and life goals which you believe you could only achieve if you were a "fluent" speaker.
...And if you are interested to access the COMPLETE resources of inner and outer game of fluency, feel free to click here and check them out.
All the best,
Chazzler DiCyprian
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