Wow, you're wondering should you stay married for the kids.

That's one of the toughest any marriage could really ever face. It's likely that the only person that you've ever loved more than your spouse, is your kids, and hurting them is not something that you EVER want to have to do.

I know exactly how you feel. It really wasn't long ago at all that I was in your precise position and wondering the exact same thing, should you stay married for the kids.

My wife and I would even have conversations about it. Sometimes heated, sometimes as calm as ever (you know its bad when it's a calm conversation...how backwards is that?)

Listen there's been fewer low times in my life as when I was wondering if I was doing more good or harm for my kids by staying in a tumultuous marriage. It's one of those things where you're truly stuck not knowing what the heck to do.

One of things I decided, because I was getting really tired of wondering if I should stay married for my kids was that I was going to give it one last shot. I figured that I deserved one last shot to make sure that I wasn't giving up on my marriage prematurely, and my kids deserved one last shot at having two mature parents and not the ones they'd had for the first few years of their lives.

I also decided something else. I decided that instead of focusing on all that was wrong with my life that I would begin to focus and enjoy all the great things in my life.

That can seem tough at times when life is full of arguments, but you'd be surprised what happens when you ignore all of the crap that you don't like, and start to focus on all the stuff that you love.

What did I focus on?

My kids! The time that I enjoyed with my wife, and the times that I didn't enjoy I stayed away. I avoided all negativity. For the most part, this worked like crazy, but the truth it was it was only the beginning.

But it certainly laid some really good groundwork.