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Most people I know focus on opinions and attitudes of those around them. They concern themselves with what other people think, and how other people affect them. But the biggest negative force people contend with resides within.
73% of all self talk is negative. That means people internalize and manifest negative thoughts almost 45 minutes out of every hour. That's a lot of people doing a lot of self loathing. Some are fed these negative thoughts at a young age with parents or peers calling them "fat", or "stupid". Say it enough to someone and they are going to believe it.
Reprogramming our minds to think and process in a healthier way takes a conscious effort. It may seem a little hokey to some, but you really have to say to talk to yourself and implant the seeds of positivity into your mental vocabulary.
Remember this is a private process. No-one has to be involved or informed. This is your choice to rid yourself of your own developed demons. If life and circumstances have taught you to think the way you do, you can teach yourself think differently as well.
Write down all of your best attributes. Write down all of the things you like about yourself as a person. Be honest; use as many colorful words as you can. Writing things down can help you visualize your strengths. Carry it with you and add to the list. Read it and re-read it everyday. You'll feel good about yourself as you read and digest the words your minds inners voices speaks them and communicates them to your subconscious.
Stand in front of a mirror. Look yourself dead in the eye. Say "Today, I am going to be exactly the person I want to be." Repeat it a few times. Then say "I deserve to be happy!" Say that a few times. Then say "Today is the first day of the rest of my life!" This may seem a little odd for some of you. But you are speaking to your true self. The mirror is a reflection of your outer person which stimulates your auditory senses of your subconscious.
Now you could be in the elliptical machine at the gym, in your car driving. As you are engaged in these or similar activities, think to yourself about how you are going to use your own positive mindset that you're creating in different situations in your life. If you are having difficulties with someone at work, how are you going to cope with the situation positively, instead of waiting for them to change. Having a problem in a relationship? How are you going to behaving in a more loving and understanding way that may create the harmony you seek?
These examples merely demonstrate that you are in control of your life. That you have the choice to make the difference, or perpetuate the illness of negativity you allow to bring you down. This exercise is not about them. This is about you. Your mindset and positivity put into practice. The better life you want is not going to be just given to you. You are going to want it and go after it and live it. This is your life. Fill your mind and soul with love, positivity, and strength and the world will mirror your energy, offering you opportunity and happiness that is simply waiting for you to take.
About this Author
Elliot Zovighian is a life coach, speaker, author, blogger is the owner of EZ Lifestyles, a life coaching company from Toronto, Canada. His daily blog offers articles and advice on such subjects as life skills, work and career, relationships, parenting, featured videos and more. http://www.ezlifestyles.ca
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