Are you really interested in getting back together with your ex? You may react instantly by saying "of course I do!" But dwell deep in your heart for the real reasons. There has to some mettle to the fact that you broke up. What happened before can happen again unless you decide to deal with the reasons.

Do you really believe that you will be happy once you get back together with your ex? Or both of you will just follow the same route down to Splits Ville?

Chances are that you have been dwelling only on all the good times that you had together. Don't think about them. Think about your break up and what reasons led to it. Don't think about your loneliness think about what irritated you when you were together.

This may sound cruel, but you really need to be as honest as it gets about your relationship. Evaluate the good and the bad times before you come to a decision.

Sometimes it is better not to be together. A breakup could be a blessing. Did you fight often? Not feel the love often? Were you really happy together? Was the break up almost a relief? Would it be better to move on?

Once you are done with the soul searching, you will know if you want to be together. If you have come to the conclusion that you want to get back together with your ex then the rest of this article will help you do just that. A break up does not have to mean the end of a relationship.

Limit contact with your ex. At no point should your ex feel that you are stalking them. This includes calling too often, messaging round the clock, emailing, social networks, everything. When you do this you come across as some one who is desperate to get the ex back. You don't need an impression like that.

When you do talk to your ex, don't beg or plead to get back together. Don't let them feel that you wee responsible for the break up and that you will improve for them.

You may be guilty of lot, but bygones are bygones. You need to move forward towards the future.

The current status of your relationship is over. So back off and give each other space. Concentrate on what to do to get back together with your ex.

In time your ex might invite you out for a coffee or maybe you can initiate it. Before long you may go out together on a real date and be a couple again.