You know the added saying "marriage is hard" but how hard is to hard before you must part ways? There are many things you can do to save a marriage but if you both do not want it then there is a good chance that it will not work out. Now with that said, even if your partner does not want it now does not mean that they will not want it in the future. You must be patient and give some space and time will tell.

I get asked a lot "how much time Ryan before they we will know". This is a hard question. It all depends on the situation that brought you to this point. For example, my wife cheated on me after being married for 2 years (together for 7 years) and I am still trying to forgive and move on. That was in May of 2009. How much longer will it take? Who knows but you both must work extra hard if this is what you really want to save a marriage. Getting the relationship back on track can take weeks, months or years but if you both want it anytime will be worth it.

Just make sure that if they ask for space you give it to them. You may need to move out for a month or two and them think about what they want. Whatever you do do not lay down guidelines for them during this time. Let them be. They will get things figured out a lot quicker. When I went through this with my wife I tried to hold her hand in public and bring her on nice dates (as I always did) but she was having none of it. I got mad but then I a marriage guide I read it told me to step back give space and things would fall into place. Now this could end in a good result or a divorce but either way you will know and that is the first step to being happy.

Here are 3 Ways You Can Rekindle Your Love

1. Give Space: This will be hard to do especially if you have kids and during holidays. This is something that must be done. If he/she stays out late at night and comes home don't yell or ask questions. A quick, hello and hope you had fun will go a long way but in the same time they will recognize you are not prying their lives. I learned this the hard way but trust me...it works.

2. Settle Jesters:Show you still care and you are willing to make things work. When they come home have the house clean and dishes done. If you have kids make sure they are fed, have homework done and are winding down for the night. When going through a hard time to save a marriage the last thing the other wants is to come home to a messy home. Doing something so minimal will go a long way and this will show that you care enough. If your partner does not come home (they moved out for a while) then you can do things like pick up the kids from school so she does not have to rush home from work or you can send a nice card in the mail saying you are thinking of her/him.

3. A Weekend Out: This was the turning point in my marriage. I simply asked my wife to take off of work for a long weekend and told her it was a surprise. I felt I was defiantly close to not giving space but I figured if she did not want to go she would not have came. I set up a 3 night stay in a hotel only 20 minutes away but it was still away. We arrived and we had a spa day set up and after that a nice dinner. The first night we talked until 8:00 am! We pretty much got everything out in the air and decide if we want this work we need to forgive and forget and move forward.

What we did is write down what each other expects from this point on and if the "rule" was broken it would be discussed immediately and in an adult way. So far so good. You will be amazed that when you see an expectation written down on a piece of paper and read it every night before you go to bed how that can save a marriage.

What we did is write down what each other expects from this point on and if the "rule" was broken it would be discussed immediately and in an adult way. So far so good. You will be amazed that when you see an expectation written down on a piece of paper and read everyngiht before you go to bed how that can save a marriage.