If you're pining for a man you're no longer with, you're obviously in desperate need of a plan to get him back. Chances are very good that since the break up everyone has been telling you that you're better off without him, right? They're wrong. No one but you knows the depth of the pain you're feeling inside and they can't even begin to understand how confused and lonely you feel. Many couples go through a break up only to find themselves back together and more in love than ever. If you want him back, make it happen. There are some proven steps to get your boyfriend back that will not only win back his love, but make him adore you more than ever.

One of the first and most important steps to get your ex boyfriend back is to let him go. That sounds like a very bad idea but it's not. When we love someone we want to do everything in our power to hold onto them when we feeling them slipping away. If your boyfriend has told you, in no uncertain terms, that he needs his time and space, give him that. You are only damaging your chances of getting back together with him if you continually try and contact him to get him to talk about the issues at hand. If he wants time away from you, you have to give him that. It will actually help you to get him back more than if you were talking to him day after day. Let him go, for now. It's essential to getting him back.

Shifting your focus from him to you is also one of the instrumental steps to get your ex boyfriend back. As much as you feel that you can't think of anything but him, you need to. Your ex doesn't want to be with a woman who isn't mature enough to handle a break up. You need to show him that you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with your life. During this time try not to contact your ex. You really want to ensure he has a chance to miss you and to experience life without you in it. Once that starts to happen and he sees that you're fine without him, he'll question whether breaking up with you was actually the best thing for him.