The mere fact that you aren't just accepting a divorce, you aren't letting everything go and you are trying to look for methods to prevent a divorce makes you a noble person in my eyes. It's not something everyone does - because not everyone has the necessary human qualities to maintain a marriage.

Let me add here that I have been exactly where you are now. My marriage was in a very bad shape and I knew that soon enough my husband would want a divorce. That he did and I didn't know what to do or how to respond to this situation. I went desperate and showed my devastated, depressed state to him deliberately so that he would see this and reconsider. Obviously that didn't work.

Now I want to open parentheses and say that I have saved my marriage from this hopeless situation. And while I did that, I learned a lot about marriages. I learned that what makes marriages end is a spouse gone desperate and attempting desperate measures to save a marriage. Such measures are exactly what I told you I did above. And they are the number one marriage killer.

So, what is the number one marriage saver?

It's simple: Going against the flow. Saving a marriage requires counterintuitive action since your intuitions are driven by your emotions and they will make you do the wrong things in this situation. So you must always go against the flow and not do what your emotions are telling you to.

Stay calm. Retain control over your emotions. This is the number one step in saving a marriage.