What do you usually do when you come up against an obstacle or a problem? How do you react? Maybe you throw your hands up in frustration at yet another delay, or shrug your shoulders and think 'here we go again'. Both these reactions belong to the school of negative thinking because they set up a chain reaction of negatives.
If you feel angry or frustrated you'll work yourself up inside, adding thought upon thought until you've built a huge mass of irritability. This is not an atmosphere in which you can achieve anything positive. Your ability to find a way around your difficulties is impaired because all you can think about is the frustration of having encountered the difficulty in the first place. Every time you try to think positively about your situation this mass of irritability generates an avalanche of negative thoughts to bury those fledgling positive ones.
And if anyone else is nearby it can get even worse. Sharing your frustrations with someone willing to 'sympathize' or 'empathize' just piles on more and more irritations. Maybe they'll throw in a few of their own examples just to add more fuel to the fire.
If you're more of a 'here we go again' type, your response to the situation is most likely to be trawling your memory banks for every remotely similar experience and re-running it in full technicolor. You will remember every negative aspect of the previous experiences and confirm this as a new one for the files. What you'll forget, however, is that you got over the previous experiences and moved on. Instead you'll build up the negatives and ignore any opportunity for positive thinking.
Getting back to positive thinking and resuming your journey to success is as simple as saying How?. How is a good question because it doesn't limit the possible answers in the way some other question words can. Your question form is: How can I...? followed by whatever is relevant to the circumstances:
- How can I get the information I need?
- How can I change my plans to get around the delay?
- How can I make this product better?
- How can I make my communications more effective?
- How can I better understand my marketplace?
- etc.
In a short time you'll be rewarded with a bunch of ideas for consideration. Plus, you'll have calmed down sufficiently from your first negative reaction to be able to think about these ideas more positively. Maybe you won't have one ideal solution but being able to think calmly and rationally again will let you take the positives from the different ideas and put them together until you have something that will work.
Once you've mastered this technique to get over your first negative reaction, you should be able to 'switch it on' more and more quickly which will help you learn to avoid having those negative reactions in the first place. In time it will only take the first signs of a setback for you to switch to positive thinking and ask yourself How can I...?
About this Author
To be really prosperous in life and achieve abundance in health, wealth, happiness and anything else you desire, you need to use strategies and skills including positive thinking. Maggi Birtles has extensively studied these techniques and is actively applying them to her own life. She is offering you a free ecourse and books to help you join her on track for success at http://www.mindtoriches.com
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