Why?
Because we have more goal setting to talk about.
You know, I have a rule. I never use the word 'why' when I ask a question which involves other people or emotional issues. I will, of course, use 'why' for something technical like "Why won't the microwave oven work?" (Because it stuffed out over the weekend, it's true, it really did.) Or "Why did I sleep in yesterday? (Forgot to set the alarm)". The answer you get from these 'why' questions is obvious. When you ask an emotional 'why' question, one that involves you and another person, you're likely to get a story and if it's a negative story about an issue with someone else that story will always be inaccurate.
There is another 'why' question I do ask. Its a goal related question and it's probably the most important question you can ask when you set your goals and it goes like this...
"Why do you want to achieve those goals?" or better still, "Why do I want to achieve my goals?".
Got you thinking didn't I? Wait, there's more, steak knives are included...
Why do you want to achieve those goals? What's the purpose of them? Is it to make money for the sake of making money, to get a partner because you are lonely, or maybe to live in a bigger and better house because you want to raise your status.
It's interesting when you ask about purpose like this isn't it? To me, it immediately puts a negative or disempowering take on the goal. There's a shallowness to it. Don't get me wrong, if you want to set a goal to purchase and drive that new Ferrari because it will make you feel successful, go for it.
When I asked myself about why I wanted my goals, I found myself reframing the question just a little to "Why do I want to achieve that (or those) goal(s)?". It put a different emphasis on the purpose, and the purpose became more holistic.
Let me give you and example.
The other evening a client friend was around at my place and she asked me "Andrew, what are you doing all this for, what part of 'you' are you doing it for?" (thank you K.....). I had an answer for her, but she got me thinking, and it made me reflect and revisit my goals to check I'm on track.
Call to Action
Spend time thinking about your goals, why you want to achieve them and, when you do, try think holistically. Try to think like my fantastic client, in Brisbane, who wants to help people on a Pacific Island educate their children or my amazing coach, Kurek, who helps people all over the world live abundant, loving empowering lives.
A technique you may want to use to help yourself is to remove all boundaries when thinking about what your goals mean to you. Consider yourself in a life with the perfect partner, no money or wealth challenges, perfectly behaved and educated children and family. What would you wish for then? What would you offer your community, your country or the world.
It's a tantalising question to ask yourself, isn't it?
Andrew Warnes is an intuitive and personal development success coach. Go to http://web.me.com/andrewwarnes for your free booklet "5 Easy Ways to Get Out of Your Dark Place". You can also subscribe to receive your weekly tip as well.
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