My Husband Snores - How Can I Best Communicate With Him So He Considers Snore Cures?

I get emails all the time saying "My Husband Snores." What everyone wants to know is how to communicate the problem effectively to him so that he considers snore cures.

Let's face it, having a partner who keeps you awake with their persistent snoring is a nightmare! You have to put a stop to it and the first step is communicating the problem to them so that they will be prepared to take action and do something about it.

Now no matter how annoying their problem is for you, it's important to remember to handle the problem sensitively. Keep in mind that your partner is very likely to feel vulnerable, isolated, and probably a little embarrassed about their snoring.

If you let them know how you feel about the situation in an uncaring way it could be very hurtful for them. That said, you do need to talk to them about it, because the situation has to change.

Here are some suggestions for communicating with your partner about their problem:

- Remember that he/she is not doing it on purpose. - Although their snoring is having a bad effect on you and you are suffering, they are not doing it to pick on you in any way. If they could click their fingers and stop - they probably would. It's just not that simple.

- Pick the right time - Your partner's snoring is causing you lack of sleep and probably making you more irritable than normal - so pick a time when you are feeling at your best (Probably a good idea to avoid an early morning discussions when you're feeling the effects of a lack of sleep).

- Avoid arguments with your partner about the snoring - Try not to let your lack of sleep and increased irritability lead to lots of arguments with your partner. Try to focus instead on finding a solution that will end the nightly torture. Arguing will put increased strain on your relationship. I know it's hard - but try not to.

- Be careful not to be resentful - It's important to ensure that you don't resent your partner because of the countless sleepless nights. Resentment can build up and poison every aspect of your relationship

Remember that if you can solve this problem together then it is something that can strengthen your relationship and bring you closer together. If you don't do anything about it then it can drive a wedge between you - so it's important not to leave it too long.

So communicate with your partner and try to discover the solution to this problem in your life. If you do you should reap the rewards.