#1. List what you bring to the relationship #2 List what you enjoy doing #3 List what you value having

Because who we are changes and evolves, so do our needs. As the items on your list change, the person you attract will change; because you have changed. The man who is right for you at this moment, may not be the man who is right for you down the line. Be open to experiencing happiness fully, right now, so you can focus on the present, and not be distracted by what the future may hold for you.

Be open to being with the man who fits who you are now. Eventually, you will focus on attracting the person who fits with the life you want in the future.

Be true to your nature, right now. Get all the stuff out of the way that you want to experience, and be able to say, "been there, done that." If, right now, you enjoy running the streets at night, drinking with your friends, going to night clubs, you want to know how to attract a man who fits with that lifestyle. That's what will make you happy, right now. Sometimes, you need to have your current experience to learn about yourself, learn what you really like or to just have great memories when you are older!

If you try to attract a man who is a good father, who stays home with his family, works diligently at his job and showers you with gifts and attention, right now as a party girl, you'd go nuts. You'd think this type of man with stability traits, is boring!

Instead of trying to put a square peg in a round hole, answer these questions to attract Mr. Right now.

What do you bring to the relationship?

What type of person do you bring to the relationship? Who are you being? If you are being a fun-loving person, you'll attract someone who is looking for that quality. If you are a quiet, reserved, caretaker, you'll attract someone who values those qualities. Make sure you are clear about what you like about yourself that you want your man to admire. This will ensure you attract a man who is right for you.

What do you enjoy doing?

Lots of advice books tell you to go where the men are. If you want to expose yourself to a new activity, that's good advice. But to show up at a sporting event looking cute, just to catch someone, will not serve you when he plans dates around these types of activities.

First of all, you won't be your best self because you are uncomfortable. Next, he will think he's found a soul mate based on a false belief. If you become a couple and he's willing to do things you enjoy and you are willing to compromise and do his stuff sometimes, the relationship could work. But be ready with your list of what you really enjoy doing and be honest about it early in the relationship.

What do you value having?

If you value fast cars, and bling, be honest about it. A frugal man who wants a woman who values a white picket fence home is not going to be pleased if you are really someone who wants the latest, most expensive trendy item. The man who values YOUR values is a better match. Make sure what you are collecting in your life reflects what you value.