I'm sure we've all heard the adage that communication is largely non verbal, it's about so much more that just basic talking. In fact, it's true to say that the vast majority of communication is done not through words but through body language, expressions, atmospheres and attitudes. What is a warm cuddle in silence communicating? A whole lot.

If nothing else you must realize that your ability to effectively communicate with your partner in a marriage is so important that all else ultimately depends on it. You must consistently strive to improve how well you are able to clearly communicate and also learn to read what your partner is communicating to you. This kind of care and attention will create a circle in the relationship which constantly feeds and rewards itself.

When you feel that someone 'understands you' the effect and the feelings it inspires are full of happiness and genuine joy, it's this feeling that you should be aiming to create in each other. You are a team and neither of you can complete the circle on your own.

Until you really know your partner you'll each have to do a lot of double checking to see if how you are interpreting each others actions is accurate. It can be very easy to cross wires and communicate to your partner in unintentional ways or to be totally and completely misunderstood. I'm sure we've all experienced that.

Looking back you can probably think of arguments which have started solely on the strength of misunderstanding within the relationship. The key is to actively want to know your partner and to use this desire to genuinely listen to them. If your partner is willing to return the same back to you, you're both going to feel a whole lot stronger in the marriage and a deeper sense of love.