Are you ready to make a commitment with the guy in your life? Are you uncertain how he feels about the long term viability of your relationship? Do you have any idea what it takes to overcome the obstacles that keep a man from making a commitment? If your goal is to make a man commit, you have to understand commitment from his perspective.

Why do guys resist commitment?

Simply put they view commitment in a more negative light than women do. For a woman commitment means security. For a man commitment means loss of freedom. You have to learn how to change his perception of commitment from a negative one into a positive one.

How do you go about changing his negative perception?

With responsibility comes reward. Let a man know up front that commitment to you comes with some rewards that aren't included in casual dating. Intimacy is at the top of this list. A man needs to prove that he is worthy of you before you will have sex with him. Another reward of commitment is exclusivity. You need to make a man aware that you will continue to see other men until he stakes his claim. Most men don't want competition for very long. He may put up with it for little while, but he'll soon realize that having you to himself is much better than sharing your time with other men.

What else do you need to know about men and commitment?

Guys can't read your mind. They get very uncomfortable when they know they've messed up but they don't know why. If you want to make a man commit, learn to communicate honestly and calmly. A man will be relieved when he knows exactly what it will take to make you happy. Most men need some direction and instruction. That's why they love sports so much. The rules are very clearly defined and there is little guesswork involved. All they have to do is show up and give one hundred percent.

With a little knowledge you can learn how to overcome a man's resistance and make him commit. This will get you much further than the traditional tactics most other women try.