If you have children with your cheating spouse, then they more than likely have been privy to your marital problems, especially if infidelity was involved. One of the most painful experiences a child can have is witnessing problems between his parents and knowing "Daddy hurt Mommy."

It's not uncommon for children to show symptoms of anger and stress after witnessing conflict between parents. Such behavior can include anger, acting out and showing disrespect at school and at home. When this happens, you may blame your cheating husband; he, in turn, may blame you and insist your refusal to forgive him is what upsets your family.

If your child begins acting out in disturbing ways, you may wish to enroll them in family or child counseling. We do not suggest there's anything wrong with your child; they're simply going through a tough time understanding what's going on at home. It's also possible that your children are blaming themselves for what's wrong in your troubled marriage, even if you know it has nothing to do with them. Take action to speak with them and inform them that they are not to blame for what's going on at home.

Fighting over who's to blame for your children's reaction to your relationship woes will not solve any problems, but may in fact inflame things further. You both need to put your irritations to the side and come up with a method to present a united front to your children. No, things may not be alright, but they definitely don't need to affect your children's happiness. Let your children know that, yes, Mommy and Daddy are having problems, but they are being sorted out and nobody is going anywhere. If, in fact, there are plans for separation or divorce, don't mention this possibility. Just tell them things are being worked out.