Indicators of Interest - How She Lets You Know She's Interested

If you want to be good at flirting, it's extremely important that you can accurately read body-language. Without knowing it, women send out subtle signals to let you know whether they want more or whether they want you to back down. Here are the most common "indicators of interest" - signals that tell you she's interested.

1. Body Alignment:

This isn't a single indicator or specific thing she does. Look at her whole body, her posture and her alignment. Crossed legs, crossed arms and a body alignment turned away from you mean that she wants you to back off. When she's all closed up like this, don't even thing of keeping at it and trying to win her over. If, on the other hand, she aligns her body with yours, that is a good indicator that she's enjoying your company. Even before you're actually flirting with her, you can tell a girl has noticed you and is interested if she's pointing a foot in your direction. This is something that people unconsciously do and if you pay attention, you'll probably catch yourself doing the same thing as well.

Generally speaking, the more open and directed towards you her body is, the higher her level of interest.

2. Mirroring:

This takes things one step beyond body alignment: If she starts mirroring your movements to a certain extent, that means she's really in tune with you. Examples of mirroring: You lean forward, she leans forward. You reach for your drink, she reaches for her's. You lean your elbows on the table, she does the same. You get the picture.

NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) teaches that you can actually create a deeper connection with someone by consciously mirroring them for a while, until you can take the lead and they start following.

3. (Certain Kinds of) Fidgeting:

If she starts playing with her hair, that's an indicator of interest. If she subtly starts stroking her arm, her hand or her neck, that's also an indicator of interest in most cases (could also be nervousness for reasons other than how great your game is...).

In general, if she fidgets with things that distract her from you (her phone, her handbag, her make-up), she's trying to get rid of you. If she fidgets in such a way that she can keep eye-contact, it's a good sign.

4. Surrogate Touching:

This is something that most people don't know about: Before we start touching each other, we often look to touch stuff the other person owns. If she touches some object that is yours or that she associates with you (could also just be your bottle of beer or something along those lines), it's almost like she's testing the waters to see how you'd react to direct touch.

5. Looking Down:

This is the most subtle of the bunch. Look into her eyes and hold the gaze until she looks away (only do this if you've already made her comfortable around you, otherwise it's real creepy). It usually only takes a second or two before eye-contact is broken. If she looks away sideways, she's not interested. If she looks away downwards, she's interested.

Of course, there are exceptions to the rule, but if you train yourself to notice this, you'll find it to be a surprisingly accurate indicator.

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