Can you walk the moon in the name of love? would you fly a boat in the name of love? Would you drain your blood for love? Sounds out of space right? I am sure if you are like me, you will give anything to make it real, don't mind me... sure you get my drift.

When I am in love, I go the extra mile to make things happen, I always want to ensure we both have good memories to treasure. Why? Because when the odd times come, I veered of into my good memories as my source of comfort, treasures to behold.

The courtship days were just remarkably, nothing out of place, just the ability to make simple things look extraordinary made it feel special. What did I enjoy most, 'gisting'. Oh dear, we would talk till the wee hours of the morning on phone as if the bills weren't running; one hour, two hours...at a stretch without thinking and worrying about anything else in the world, just us. Very ordinary you might say but it really felt good I often forgot that I had to wake up very early to make my job the next day, I just generally swam in the world of our communication. Don't ask me what we talk about. No kiss and tell, remember?

Love makes problems seem very light even when the reality of it stares you in the face. Honey (never mind, that's what I call him) went all out to ensure that I had a good start off after my divorce, he was really supportive. He created all avenues to engage my mind, I gave it to him alright, he sure knows how to douse tension afterall, he had towed that line before, two of a kind you'd say right? He reminds of Teddy Pendergrass' song "So good, so good, so good, when somebody loves you back....." You need to feel it to know it. Each time I look over my shoulder, I found him there and so it is till date.

It is easier to voice out this feelings because it's mutual. It pays to do it in the name of love because when the chips are down, or when the cold moments come, the unseen force that strengthens you is the love shared. And you know what, we do have those moments but it all ends up beautifully.

Now, so much for the sweet side of love. I've been through both so I know. The things we tolerate in the name of love is amazing. I have seen couples whose past time is quarrelling. It's like there's a time table set aside for this event. Lots of screams and free fist flying in the air. The man enjoys battering and the woman enjoys the fact that it ends beautifully under the sheet. That beats me really...Each time I discuss it with her and the conclusion is always - I love my husband, I can't live without him. we'd always sort things out. - What do you say to that? Makes me cringe! I love my body and can't imagine any deformity in what ever form and definitely not for love. Sorry, that's my opinion!

Another scenario is such that the woman is ready to work her life out to support her family while the husband simply laze around. He loves to live big and act big all from the finances of a willing partner but not his own sweat. Yes, love is sharing but when it turns to stupidity, I rest my case. What beats me most is that the same guy goes about chasing skirts from the sweat of his loving wife while the gullible wife is just happy that at least he comes back to her and the children. Whatever happens to the health factor in the relationship? What about mutual respect, care, commitment to the parties concerned? 

The power of love suppresses all ill feelings I agree but do you have to be gullible in the name of love? You tell your self that you won't take nonsense from nobody but found yourself drowning in it.

I never liked a man being overbearing but I found one in my life, quite manageable I must say because he is quite reasonable and we talk about everything. But in a situation where you don't have control over your partner's attitude, isn't it better to take a walk?

I guess we all have our oddities that we conform with in the name of love. For as long as you find happiness and can manage the negatives, just keep the love glowing, create your world of fond memories but when it becomes destructive, please take a bow!