It does not make much sense to be stuck in a dating relationship for many months, which may even turn into years. Yet this is something that many men seem to be quite comfortable with. Trying to change your boyfriend to get past this stage may prove quite a challenge if you do not know the right approach you should apply.

You may go through a frustrating time if you are dating a man who is not interested in raising the issue of commitment at all. Many relationships have ended at this stage as the ladies decide to walk out after an endless period of waiting for the man to drop the big question.

In case you are feeling that your patience is stretching to the limit, giving up should not be the answer. There are some important steps that will help you to change your boyfriend's attitude so that he will want to commit. Here are some of these steps.

Don't talk about it

If you would like to make your boyfriend consider marrying you, you should not raise the topic at all. This may seem ironic, but it's what works best. When you keep raising the issue of commitment, you will end up making the man feel like you are pushing him into a corner. Anything that is cornered will instinctively go to the defensive, including human beings and particularly men. You will hence create a struggle that you should not expect to win.

It is wiser to avoid talking about a future that includes both of you. This is bound to raise the man's curiosity. In case you have been talking about how you intend to see your friendship emerge into something stronger, stop it. Your boyfriend will be curious as what has caused that change. In order to determine the truth, and solve the possibility of losing you, he will make more commitment.

Be independent

You should also avoid planning your life around your boyfriend. Make your personal plans without taking him into consideration. Do not let your individual life grind to a halt. Men tend to relax when they realize that we will just be waiting for them. By showing your independence, you will make your boyfriend realize that you have your own life apart. This will make you earn his respect, and he won't sit by as you seem to slip off his grasp.

As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. Show him through your actions that you are not sitting by waiting for him whenever he feels like it. These steps, and others not mentioned here, will help you to influence your boyfriend to yearn to commit.